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writes:Pls I need your opinion, my boyfriend enjoy sex with me, and we both satisfy with each other, but his always begging me to give him a chance to try is fantasy of bringing a girl to join us,he said, he only want to know how it feel having two girls in bed at a time,I know he loves me and I already agree to let him try on our next vacation,with a condition that is not gonna have sex with the girl. The issue bodering is, "is it proper? Is it not gonna break our love?, I will be waiting ur answer thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): You should tell your boyfriend yes to the threesome and then tell him you want a threesome with him and another guy. That should end it
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (2 February 2013):
Wanting a threesome doesn't mean anything other than wanting a threesome. It doesn't mean he isn't ready for a relationship as another person said; that kind of thinking is naive and assumes everybody thinks the same way as you. He could be madly in love with you and want to be married to you for the rest of your life.
Some people, regardless of how much they love their spouse, want to be with more than one person.
If you can't accept that don't be afraid to tell him "no". If he can't accept that then the two of you just aren't compatible.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I'd be willing to make a generous wager that, adding another girl in to your's and his bed is going to be the "beginning of the end" of your "relationship"....
WHY would you give him a "pass" on this clearly-unacceptable fantasy??????? .... when, what it REALLY shows is that he doesn't care a whit about YOU?????
Good luck.....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I had been the ex wife doing the threesome. I had also been the third wheel. Both were two women one man. The first was I was pregnant and didn't want sex much but didn't want my ex husband to be deprived. I was curious about sex with women too. The second was a couple who asked me to join (after the divroce, of course). For the first experience the girl was shy and felt guilty to experience pleasure. The second time was an orgy. I was like, what's the big deal, why does it look so glorious on films? The threesomes did not screw up either relationships. I divorced my ex for different reasons. The couple I mentioned got married a few years later and had a baby. They resume that lifestyle.
For it to be enjoyable you have to have no jealousy bone and have some lesbian interests. It also helps if your thinking is not too mainstream, e.g. you see normal as being insane. Lastly prepare for the worst. If your relationship breaks up you can handle it. It's probably a good thing and there is no need to regret the threesome if that happens. You just know what to expect the next time. Also each relationship is different but for simplicity's sake I will stick to monogamy.
As for two men one woman, most men don't want to do that. If you are all about fairness then you probably shouldn't do any kind of threesome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): Lack of respect on your boyfriends part springs to mind. So what he has a fantasy, because of the nature of his fantasy, it shouldn't be something that is brought into a relationship. If he wants to have a threesome, he should have played his fantasy out when he was single with other single women, not expect his girlfriend to agree to this and be happy about it.
Its your relationship and your choice. Based on what you've said in your post, you're not comfortable with allowing this to go ahead, but you've agreed because it will make your boyfriend happy. You haven't considered your own feelings in this decision, so my advice to you is, not to allow this to go ahead. It will cause repercussions in your relationship.
That's my view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): It depends on you both if you feel that you would secure and confident enough to be fine with it but if you don't then I wouldn't do it. But if you do do it then it is better to do it on vacation and never with the same person again so no feelings develop. And if you do decide to go for it I would do it as a one off or something that only happen's on vacation.Hope this helps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 February 2013):
Just reading that whole 'begging' thing made me cringe. The experience that most have had with threesomes, is that they don't work out unless you're single. Also, I suspect that you're thinking about doing this because of him, rather than because you actually want to do it. That's a dangerous thing, as realistically speaking it'll mean when you see him having sex with that other girl, you won't like it.
I suppose that's the point here, really. Do you want to do it?Are you going to be able to handle the fact that he will be in front of you, naked, with another woman, pleasuring her and being pleasured by her. And are you going to be able to let her do things with you, because you can be sure that he'll want that to happen as well, hence why he wants another girl, and not a man.
Also, his way of 'begging' doesn't exactly make it seem like he really cares for you as a human, but sees you more as a piece of meat that he can just use for his own fantasies.
My feeling from your post, is that your relationship will fall apart entirely if you go through with this.
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reader, jdxx +, writes (2 February 2013):
 OP I fully agree with everything Cerberus has said in his answer, the fact that you've asked us on here speaks volumes that you are not comfortable with the idea let alone the act! If I we're you I'd be considering if this 'love' is worth having in the first place if your partner has pressured you into doing something you genuinely don't want to be part of, and for someone to want those types of things in a relationship in the first place screams ala bells to me because when you genuinely love someone you don't generally notice the opposite sex exist let alone want to bring someone else into your bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): OP do you want this or are you only doing it because he's begging?
I mean do you really want it. Is it something you've always wanted to try and you're excited at the thought?
If not then don't do it.
Let me ask you OP, does the thought of seeing another woman kissing your man make you happy? How about seeing another woman suck his dick? How about watching him lick out another woman? Or watch him get any kind of sexual pleasure from another woman? Do those things excite you or make you feel a bit sick?
If it's the latter then you must not go through with this. It will destroy your love OP because he's asking you if he can cheat in front of you if this is not something you want.
OP this is a threesome. He's going to be lovingly kissing her, feeling her breasts, passionately grabbing her ass and rubbing up against her, he's going to be looking deeply into her eyes the way he does with you during sex, is that something you think you will be okay with? Picture all the things he will be doing to her in front of you and ask yourself if that's okay. If not, then this cannot happen or you will destroy this relationship.
I've had threesomes and the only way they worked for me was when the three of us were single. I loved having two women at the same time OP it's brilliant. But there is no chance in hell I'd want a threesome with my fiancée. I don't want her kissing anyone else, not even a woman. The idea of seeing her be sexual with anyone else leaves a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach and I honestly think if I ever saw that, especially with a man it would destroy me. I want to be her one and only like she is my one and only. I don't give a damn about how cool it is to have two women there is no chance in hell I'd be okay with anyone else pleasuring her sexually. If you feel like I do then do not let this happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): The fact that he just wants to see what it's like to have two girls in bed at a time shows he is not ready for a relationship. If he wants to do that kind of thing then he can go and find two girls and not expect you to be waiting for him with open arms.I would not agree, I would have said that if he wants that to happen he's got to be joined by another man first; so you can see what it's like to have two men in bed.If he can't agree to that then the stupid prat can't have two girls.
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