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writes:I'm 19 and in a relationship with a guy I love very much. We met because we live in the same halls of residence at University.He doesn't treat me like a girlfriend at all and I tell him how I feel all the time. He says he loves me but he makes little effort to ever see me and is rude to me quite a lot saying things which upset me in front of other people. Whenever I try to talk to him he tells me that I'm over-reacting and to stop being so stupid because nothing is wrong. But I feel like there is something wrong, I don't feel loved or special. He ignores me a lot of the time. It's really getting me down. I've tried to leave him before but he just says he won't let it happen because he loves me. I'm so confused. Recently he's even stopped wanting to have sex with me.Am I just over-reacting and expecting too much from him? I don't understand why he still wants us to be together when there appears to be no love. I'm so miserable but I love him so much.Please help.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Some guys are not particularly affectionate. Personally I like those better than the overly-affectionate idiots that one comes across sometimes. Nonetheless, you'll have to take a call. At 19, you're entitled to look for someone who fits closer with what you want.
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reader, MandaManderkins +, writes (3 June 2010):
 You are not in love with him, you are in love with the idea of being in love with him. you are 19 years old honey.. move on Because you are not stupid and nobody in their right mind should tell you that you are?? what judgment call is that for him to make? You do not deserve to put up with that crap. You are much better than that. Face the facts, he doesnt really love you, he is lost. I hate to say that sweetheart but the only way to get over that is to move on, and if you dont you will always be trapped and you will never be stronger. you will never defend yourself or find someone that really does love you, because you will go for the guys like him. You don't know what you like, you like what you know. MOVE ON. to some one that makes you feel good about yourself, who makes you feel pretty, makes you smile, and laugh. You deserve it. :)
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