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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear firends,I am a bit perplexed and i would really appreciate your input. I met this guy who is 29 during Christmas ( we both work abroad and we met back home during holiday). we had a couple of dates but given the fact that we both work abroad ( France and UK) i really did not take it seriously at all. I did not even want to have sex with him, given that we both had to leave. But i really liked the guy and he seemd that he liked me too ( he has always been extremely complimentary for my looks and career) . During our last date he wanted my contact details to keep in touch. He did not get in touch with me until two weeks ago just before Easter holidays. I was already in Greece so he called me when he arrived here too. We went out for drinks and we had a really great time. We were both quite passionate and we had been kissing publicly in the club without really caring about other people. Then he made again the first move to contact me and he complaint that i was lost as i did not get in touch with him ( i never made the first move or contact him first).So i suggested going out. We had drinks and he asked me whether i ever felt like contacting him when abroad and i asked he the smae. And he said, i did not want to be a burden and to oblige me to get back to me. Then he suggested playing tennis and doing some other stuff during the week. Then we had some take away food and we went to my flat ( for the first time) to eat and watch a movie( He suggested doing this a couple of time so i thought to take the initiative to do it). We started kissing and suddenly he stopped and he said it's wierd that we were both a bit akward and uncorfortable whereas we had been so confortable kissing in the club. I took it quite personally and i told him that we should leave the flat if he wanted ( together as i dont live there now.I just stay with my parents when on holidays back home)He consented immediately as he did not feel comfortable. So the guy did not even want to kiss me!! I felt a bit bad and i just told him that there might not be chemistry ( as a self defence mechanism), but he said that this was not the case and that he did not know why he felt like this ( and obviously had no erection or whatsoever). I dont know what happened and my self esteem has been significantly undermined since then.When i came home he text me goodnight but i did not repond as i took it really personally. It has been two days and the guy has not contacted me again. Any ideas as to what might have been the reason for this sudden reluctance to proceed when kissing??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe actually discussed this and he said that he was blocked. When i asked him whether he had an erection, he said no and that this was the first time it was happenning. It was then that i really felt awful.
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