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writes: Please I need some advice.I was with my ex for many years, we started dating when we were young, I am his first gf and he was a virgin when I met him. We are now in our mid 20. We had a pretty good relationship, we were best friends, sex was great, we planned on staying together for life until the last year. We stopped having sex because I became self conscious with my body since I have been batteling with weight problems for a little while but it just got worse than ever, I have let myself go and tought that everything would get back to normal eventually, that I would lose the weight, and that our sex life would become amazing like it used to be. No matter what everyone thinks, i believe he was very patient but at one point we became more friends than lovers since it had been so long we were not intimate and my confidence was extremelly low and I was not very fun to be around. I had issues but I tought they would resolve and I relied on him a lot to make it good. Eventually, what I feared the most happenned, even tough he had told me he was not really happy and tried to make us better, I found out he was cheating on me for 2 weeks and we broke up. It has been a couple of months, this has openned my eyes a lot and I have shook myself up, loosing weight, working on myself and I am much more happier but I miss him terribly. He eventually broke up with the first girl and started going out with another one right after. It seems to be serious, I don't know what he is trying to see if he wants to see what out there or if he really likes her. It s been only 3 months with her and we have seen each other 2 times in the past month and we slept together again. He was very confused last time, he told me he fell in love all over with me again and that he was really struggling but that something was holding him back. He wants to see if we could fall in love with other people or if we are really meant to be. I am not waiting for him, but I am scared to loose him at the same time even tough I did already. I am scared he will make himself fall in love with her. Maybe there is someone better for me out there, but I doubt that, I have been dating someone for a bit not serious, but still I think of my ex all the time. Do you think it is possible that he is in love with that girl even tough he cheated on her and that he says he has more feeling for me? (He is not a sweet talker, not that kind at all, he is very honnest and does not do that tgo sleep with me) Is there any ways that I could get him back in this situation?Was anybody in this situation before?Please I need your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): If you love something...let it go, and if it comes back, it's true love and it's meant to be! Live by that rule. Right now, of course you feel like he's the only guy you'll ever love! You'll feel like that for a while, because you've had so much intimacy with him. Give yourself time, give each other space, if its meant to be...you won't lose him, you two will re-unite, trust me.
He seems pretty confused, leave him alone for a while and let him think. Eventaully what ever will happen...wil happen for a reason..and every reason is good!
You can't "make" yourself fall in love with anyone, if its not love, he'll know because he'll keep thinking of you. Tell him you still love him and that you understand he's confused, but don't wait FOREVER. Girl, you got better things to do with your time. Myabe you broke up, ebcause there IS someone out there...
Alot of people go back to their exes because they're afraid to be alone. Since they've had so many close memories with their ex, they feel they cant have that with anyone else. Well you have to give yourself time, and you're tihnking will change...theres more than what? 50 gazillion bagillion people on this planet!! There HAS to be one for you :p! be patient. Don't push love. It'll come, just enjoy life and try not to worry yourself too much about it. all the best!!
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