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writes: hi all, if anyone could help i would be truly grateful! my boyfrend of two and a half years recently split with me , claiming that although he insisted he loved me 'more than i loved him' he infact didnt and did not want to string me along anylonger? i gave him two days and called to ask him if he really meant it (having found out off a friend how he'd been crying and drinking ) and he said yes. a fortnight later he started texting , and i told him i wasnt over enough to be just friends at that point. (his texts were very basic, how are you etc, except , have been thinking of you , and love xxx at the end) i did call to see him , kept my distance and he tells me he wants to kiss me, which eventualy lead to that and more. after which i was ignored , and phoned him in tears. he says i base my relationships on sex, and theres something missing , so iasked him to leave me alone , which he has . i must add , he is a widow , whose wife died in tragic circumstances only 3 years ago, and it is shortly the anniversary of her death. also he has had job problems and i am in my last year studying for a degree as well as working full time, so time has been a crisis factor lately , but im astounded and heartbroken , what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): okay, this is confusing!! If this guy tells you, that YOU base everything on sex, well then, it takes one to know one, right? He had sex with you..and then you were ignored. Typical male behavior, not that im "hating" on males out there, but the majority of which I'VE known through other freinds and met are similar. I tihnk you two need space, he obviously loved his wife and the tragic anniversary could be a big role about how he's feeling. Maybe he feels if he loves something so much (like his wife) that god or a greater force will take it away, so rather than being hurt, he'll just push you away. tell him you'll always be there for him, ( if you mean it) and that you love him, but you will NOT be treated like trash, or ignored or just for sex! When he's ready, or if he;d ever ready, he'll open up to you, don't push him, give him space, but tell him once you're there for him..and whenever he needs you, he'll come himself...don't wait forever, if its too late and you get over him and he comes back for "support", you can still be his freinds!! he needs to sort this out himself. good luck!
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