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writes: i feel all alone in this cruel, cold world. im not sure how to stop from feeling like this...? i barely have any friends, and the few i do have are not real friends. i feel like i have no one to turn to or like there no one there to comfort and support me. does anyone know how i feel? can anyone help me not feel like this anymore??? i want to love life and have friends, who are there for me...help??? can anyone give a sister advice about life and friends please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): You are not alone. Jesus loves you and sees your heart. If you can put your trust in him you will be truly fulfilled...speaking from 1st hand experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): Hi there alone....First off, you may be feeling especially alone right now as the holiday season is upon us...every where you look there are couples and families enjoying those holiday moments...it is tough for singles, but realize that alot of what you see around you this time of year is a product of mass marketing designed to tell us all that we need to spend money and be a part of it all. But trust me you do not need to be part of a couple or be married to be happy.
I find that the best way to get through the holidays or anytime that you are feeling depressed and alone is to get outside of yourself by focusing more on what you do have than what you don't and being grateful.
Further, instead of focusing so much on how you feel, try to turn your attention to others and really listen to what they have to say. It is true that to have a friend you have to be a friend first...Volunteer at your local shelter of church during the holidays and you will feel better and feel that you are contributing and will feel more connected to the world at large.
If you feel down for more than a few weeks, you may in fact need some help for depression...seek professional help, start with your family physician who may prescribe an antidepressent for you, this is not a sign of weakness, but may in fact be a chemical imbalance in your brain that you need treatment for...it is usually inherited and does not mean that you are not OK, it is very common and there are many new drugs that are very effective with little or no side effects.
Give yourself time, make some changes and see how things improve for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): if you're having problems with life, i'd suggest coucilling, just as d4u04 suggested. Theres NOTHING wrong with it, and you could get to the root of the problem, you could be suffering from depression. Medication can fix this. Eveyrone goes thrgouh a tough time, know that you're not alone and there's a billion people in the world who feel the same way. Listnet o upbeat music, eat health foods, go shopping and let yourself be spoiled, make yourself apporachable so others will want to talk to you, go on a vacation and just have some time for yourself, so once you find out who you are, you'll know who you are and others will want to know. try joining a local gym, or library club, you can't make freinds sitting on the couch, it does require effort, but in the long run, you'll be happy. don't give up if the first people you meet aren't great, don't worry move on, plently more people on this world. Just don't give up! Try to stay posotive and get a dog...they help so much! There's a reason their called " a man's best friend"
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Normally, I specialise in tough love and I would say get a grip, people won't truly love you until you love yourself. But in your case I just can't say that!
The best thing for you to do sweetheart I think is to go see a councellor of some sort because your current feelings sound like the early stages of depression.
And please don't feel embarrassed about councelling, there is such an awful stigma attached to councelling in the UK and it's ridiculous! What is the problem with getting help when you need it? That's what councellors are there for!
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