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writes:I've been thinkin bout this since I got off the phone with him last nite I'm 18 years old a senior n highschool I just got use to living in philadelphia I'm from orange county california. My boyfriend I'd from philadelphia as well we've been off and on for 4 yrs he's 19 he graduated two years ago from a different school he says that Miami will have better jobs n oppunities for us there and he wants to make me happy. But the problem is that I'm going to be graduating soon m he going to move to miami while I start college at montogmery county. But I'm also scared because what is we break up I don't have family down there and I don't wanna lose him either because of this like I really don't know what to do at all.......I need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 March 2010):
You two are so young, so it's only reasonable to have a lot of "what if's." Honestly, you two will end up breaking up and what you fear will happen, on the other hand, you two could be the exception and end up being together. What you also need to keep in mind is that Miami is known for partying, etc. He's going to hit 21 before you will and he's going to want to hit the clubs while you get to stay home and study. He may not be that type now, but people change over time.
I think you should do what YOU want to do. It's your life and not his. If you're happy where you're at and don't want to leave, then don't. It's not really fair either that you have to pick up everything and leave in order to be with him, the situation goes both ways. Also realize that sometimes people have different goals and wants in life and it leads them down different paths. What he wants to do isn't the same as what you want to do. In the end, don't wind up miserable because you want to be with your boyfriend. Go with your gut and do what you feel is right, more than likely staying home is your best decision.
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