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writes:I've recently met this guy online who is 8 years older then me. I like him soo much but we haven't met in person yet. On my profile I have pictures of my face not my body, he hasn't asked me for a picture of my body yet and the one that I do have...I was 30 lbs lighter. He wants to meet up this weekend or next but I want to lose some weight first, Im afraid if I keep pushing it off he will lose interest .Do I meet him like this or just tell him to wait ? I want him to accept me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): My fellow Aunts give you some scary situations about the bad things about meeting people on line and after finally meeting them. I met my girlfriend on line at a popular dating site, but what we first had after agreeing to meet was a skype date. I was afraid,she was afraid, so the day came when we finally met on the skype system. It was great, she looked exactly like her profile picture. She got up and waltzed around and she looked good and i did the same for her. We talked for two hours and had one more skype date about two days later before we actually met. She brought a friend and we finally met at a poplar local bistro. By this time we were both really excited and things worked out well. I believe using skype really made all the difference. Somebody who is honest would have no objection in skyping you. And if you hit it off bring your new guy over to meet room mates or close friends at a social function.. If he is honest and genuine he will have no problem in doing that. And if this guy does not leave you feeling comfortable when alone or in social situations with other friends then do not even bother to continue to see him. Most people within reason should have no issues with meeting and being around your friends and family. One more important thing, he should not be afraid to introduce you to his friends and family also, sooner rather than later. If he has few or no friends then that should send warning bells off. There is something wrong with that. Not saying he is bad, but remember you want your man to be able to relate and inter react with your famiy and friends. If he does not have any or very few then his social skills are probably greatly lacking. Good luck.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 November 2013):
 you are rught to be afraid...he could be any one of a zillion nightmares. follow your instincts and stay off social media you'll only get into trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): You've only just met this guy - on-line - and you're afraid because of how you look? Sweetheart, I'm afraid that he won't be the person he presented himself to be. I really, really, hope that you meet in a public place, don't give him any idea where you live, and have two guaranteed ways OUT before you meet him at all. I'm talking safety precautions. Perhaps even a friend who can sit away from you two and observe. Stay in one place, don't get into HIS vehicle at all. If you're changing location, make sure you have several friends who know that and PLEASE give them a time you should part ways with the guy AND STICK TO IT! I would totally be this "prejudiced if you met him in person. The main difference on-line is that you're missing body language and voice tone and because in the beginning of ANY relationship everyone puts their best face forward. As for your weight, yes, send him a newer picture so he knows what you look like. See how he reacts. Please don't let him try to persuade you to change your mind about where you're going, etc. Good luck and please stay safe
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 November 2013):
 meet him sooner... get it over with...
and 30 pounds... some folks won't even notice that difference....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 November 2013):
 Meet him sooner rather then later. Using old photos is understandable specially of you have some you really like but it IS a little bit like false advertising, isn't it? Though if you think about it, I'm sure he didn't post a bad photo of himself either.
Pretty sure that the 30 lbs difference isn't going to mean much to him if you two had a great connection. Why not take a new photo and send him one?
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