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writes:Hi, iam on a dating site, I received a message from man aged 53, he was saying how he liked my profile and would like to get to know me. I checked his profile it said looking for serious relationship leading to marriage, he also said that he likes making love in his profile. Therefore I replied and agreed to know him, he soon sent me a message telling that we are not kids, and I should have an open mind and agree to having sex on Skype. I refused I told him I was interested in knowing him as a person. He then told me he likes me and would make me his woman, but since we are far from each other we should have sex on Skype until we meet in person. And this is just within a 1 week of chatting.The last time I contacted him he just replied " you know what I need"Do you think anything serious can come out of this ! Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 June 2016):
 Nope (nothing "serious" can come of this). Don't waste your time communicating with this guy....
Good luck....
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (12 June 2016):
 You would have to be crazy to fall for this. Why are you even asking? Your own good sense must tell you that you would be open to exploitation. Aunty BimBim is right. Report him and find yourself a real flesh and blood date who you CAN get to know. This guy sounds like a sleaze.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2016): Thank you all for the great replies, Iam glad I respected myself and said NO.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (12 June 2016):
There's a strong chance that he'll use the video to make money...selling it to anyone on the internet. A lot of this stuff is on the free porn sites. It sounds like a total scam, especially when he says he wants it to lead to marriage. Whether that's his game or not, he is a total douche bag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2016): The only thing serious that could come of this may be a crime. I think you need to block this troll and never speak to him again. Please don't be so naive. You cannot date online; if you can't tell a pervert from a normal guy.
You should be approached respectfully and no promises should be made. Anyone asking for sexual favors or to see you without your clothing; is looking for foolish women who don't know any better. That's a predator!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 June 2016):
 I agree with Auntie Bim Bim
Report his pervy butt to the dating site. The fact that he is trying to manipulate you into doing things you ARE not interested in is a HUGE HUGE red flag. An this happened 1 WEEK in? What a slime-ball!
I'd wish him well, block him and NEVER look back.
Please, OP don't be so desperate for a partner that you will ignore your own standards, morals and boundaries.
And really, you know this is not an OK request from a stranger, so TRUST in your own instincts.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (12 June 2016):
No is the simple answer. He's just using you. Also if he records it or takes any images, they're his to do with what he wants. He could post it on the net, share with his friends or whatever. Sometimes people are even blackmailed to pay money by the threat that the explicit images of them will otherwise be posted online or sent to their family. This could happen to you!
I think you already know that this man is bad news. Cut all contact and have absolutely nothing to do with him.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (12 June 2016):
 "that we are not kids, and I should have an open mind and agree to having sex on Skype" - that's what kids (naive teens) do! You were smart to refuse; it's clear he's only after one thing really and used the "marriage" profile info to entice women such as yourself.He's very demanding when he says "you know what I need"; he doesn't *need* it, but it's all he wants, nothing serious, so please don't give in!I know some people feel comfortable doing sexual things over the Internet, but I will never advise it (especially with new people), as it can be recorded and used to blackmail you and/or be posted on an adult videos site, with or without your knowledge!I think you're old enough to know a man who is asking for sex so soon doesn't want anything serious. Block this guy (maybe report him, like Aunty BimBim said and never bother with guys like that again.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 June 2016):
 The only serious thing that could come of this is serious repercussions!
This is not respectful he is probably going to record you and then who knows what he will do with the video.
I would report him to the dating site and then block his number, this man is not interested in getting to know you.
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