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writes: My boyfriend and i broke up a week ago.We dated for a year and a half. He now talks to me..we are still friends...and tels me about all the parties hes going to and all of the girls he plans on sleeping with. on the other hand he tells me that maybe after i graduate college we'll be able to get back together. He thinks that i need a "real job" to understand responsibility. I told him that im not just going to be there waiting for him after four years!! i also said that i didnt want to be his second choice after hes done whatever he wants with who knows how many people. i really do still love him, but i dont want to wait this long before he wants me again. I also planned on dating other people considering that we ARE broken up currently. How can i tell him that if he wants to be with me, then he needs to decide that now...without sounding totally desperate?
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (29 September 2006):
 I agree with helpful girl darling she is right you also have to think if being friends will prevent yu from moving on which wouldn't be ok
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Play him at his own game, test the waters, tell him things you are doing and where you are going and tell him about the guys that are going to be there, that one or two have an interest in you but haven't done anything due to you having a boyfriend before, normally in this case if the guy wants you he will panic and realise he is losing you and want you back.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Skat +, writes (29 September 2006):
I have to agree with Som1. Play his game and show him that you are not dependant on him & have fun girl! It sounds like you're in college & have you noticed how many other people (guys) are there. You're young & full of life. Show him you're having fun with your mates. It will bother him!
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reader, SOM1 +, writes (29 September 2006):
Why not use a little reverse psychology with this one. Begin talking about what you have planned for the night, who you are planning to hook up with. You'll know the answer to your question soon enough. And he is a jerk for putting you thru this anyway, if it was me, I'd wave bye bye and move on, and not care what he thought about it.
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