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writes: I've been going out with my bf for about 8 months, were in our 20's, and we haven't had sex. I'm a virgin, he's not though. Early in the relationship we talked about how i needed to be in love in order to have sex and to have the relationship headed somewhere. he's been very patient about it, and as our relationship developed, we've gotten into oral sex. We are in love and we care very much for each other. However, one night after oral, he came out with," so when are we going to have sex?" which completely threw me off guard. I dont feel ready yet, yet i think because were comfortable doing oral he assumes im now ready to have sex. I thought he understood how important sex was to me, but he seems really impatient lately. He's always reaching straight into my pants and feeling me up whenever were together, and taking things faster lately. I dont know if he's just frustrated or what, but this seems really insensitive to me, and disrepectful. I'm now rethinking of having any kind of sex with him at all. Am i being unrationale here..any thoughts/opinions/advice greatly apprecitated thanks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): As much as i want to be supportive towards yr cause i cannot understand how you could see sex as more intimate than oral. People wont share toothbrush but have no qualms about putting genitals in their mouths thanks to this ridiculous new belief that if its not in the vagina its not sex. Now i love giving a bj as much as i enjoy intercourse. how much more personal does i get than an oral. I also waited until i was 21 b4 losing my virginity. And you know what? It takes less than half a sec for that to happen. Stop overestimating that half second and enjoy the experience. After performing such an intimate act is it any wonder yr bf is antsy? But maybe if after all this time you still dont love him enough then you probably never will and he is not the one
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): He shouldn't even be asking at all. If sex isn't a natural phenomena, then talking about it makes everything seem pretentious don't you think?
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 You need to talk to him again, because you have started giving him oral he is thinking that your thoughts have changed and if you haven't told him otherwise how would he know?
Just tell him how you are feeling, you shouldn't have sex until you are completely ready and he should respect that.
Good luck :o)
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