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writes:After i broke up with the man i used to date last year i started to date with a man i knew for a while but i didn't date with him because i didn't like him a lot. As nothing seemed to get improved with the man i used to date i decided to go out with the man i didn't like a lot. When we got out we had a pleasant time and seemed that he liked me and i was feeling good with him. But lately he arranged summer holidays without me and he said that he would go with friends. When i asked him to explain me his behavior he said to me that he wanted to make love without condom and that was important for him. If i didn't agreed we wouldn't go holidays together but if i agreed we would go. I hesitate to agree with him and i don't think that i will ever do. But how can i explain that to him? I want to explain to him that if our relationship would be more serious it might this happen but he makes that as a requirement for a serious relationship. Is he right? Should i accept what he wants? I didn't really like that he mentioned that as a requirement but is it better to accept it?
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reader, mayajehan  +, writes (22 November 2010):
i agree. run away as fast as you possibly can. If your intuition has told you something is not right.. it probably isnt. Anyone who asks of you something you are not willing to do and doesnt respect your decision can take a walk. You need someone who respects you, and this man clearly has his own priorities. Dont waste another moment with him.. he's not worth it.
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reader, Harry Castle  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Totally in agreement with Sandman - this character IS controlling, but in addition to that, if he's in the habit of sleeping around and NOT using condoms, your health is at risk, even if you are on birth control yourself.You simply don't know what he might have picked up from someone else.Run away as fast as you can!Harry.
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 In my opinion, this is a very bizarre request for someone to ask. Having said that, it is a request that should probably NOT be granted.
Of course, the decision is yours to make. I guess there are people who could argue the side of why you should grant his request, but I am not one of them. To me, this screams "controlling". To me, this is the beginning of some very damaging manipulative behavior on his part. He asks to make love without a condom now - but what would be his next set of demands in order to get him?
I would say move on and find a man who doesn't force you to do things you don't want to do.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): He is an immature person. What if he gets you pregnant? tell him to grow up first...he's just a waste of time.
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