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writes:okay so my boyfriend has been trying to finger me for the past month but I never let him because I wasn't ready. I'm ready now and I want him to, but I'm a little nervous about it! Ya know like whether or not I should shave down there, and that kinda of stuff? Is it going to hurt? And will I bleed? Also how can I get myself to be a little less nervous about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I agree with DoubleM and Lolita14 as well. If and when you're going to do it just relax. Start by making out, and if he tries to go for it and youre ready then it shouldnt be much of a problem. When i wanted to fondle with my girlfriend down there for the first time, she didnt let me right away, until the secong time i tried. Just relax, if youre nervous then it will only make it more painful since your vagina will be much tighter and it'll be harder for him to enter you. Also, you should tell him to start out small, maybe one finger. I think it shouldnt matter if youre shaved or not down there, although it probably is better the first times if it is, although i dont know since my girlfriend shaves down there, but i owuld say shave it first and then after you know how he likes it then you mihgt not have to.
Hope you 2 have fun and Enjoy it!
Good Luck! :)
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reader, lolita14 +, writes (14 December 2009):
 I agree with DoubleM. You should relax and tell yourself it will all be fine. Before doing "it", kiss each other, etc.
About shaving I'm not sure since I haven't done it yet bBUT you can drop a joke about it, for example, "there's this huge rumor that this girl Katy has a bush down there! LOL!" and he will probably tell if he likes it shaved or not.
Relax, take it easy!
xoxo
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 December 2009):
 You should allow this intimacy to progress at a slow pace, in my opinion. Based on your posting, we would assume that he has never even fondled you down there. If that is the case, my recommendation would be for you to allow only kissing along with exposed caressing and rubbing of your vulva, more like exploration (feeling around) and couple of times. Allow this at least mostly nude, and let him play with you there.
After you are comfortable with this degree of foreplay, I think that his finger penetration will be more comfortable for you. Usually, little to no pain should be involved if he is gentle, and slight bleeding is possible but unlikely. A trim might be a good idea in your age range.
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