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writes:Hiya I don't really know if I'm in the right place I could just really do with getting a bit of advice, me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, we've got two beautiful children together. Aged 2 and 3, I've just recently gone back to work and have found a job that I absolutely love, I love going and I feel like I'm making a difference already, I love the bit of 'me time' i get. I love that it's not just him bringing home the money. I find myself enjoying my children a whole lot more because the time with them is precious quality time, but he is absolutely desperate for another baby, to the point where he will catch me off guard, or he'll wake me up in the night to have sex with him and he will 'put it in' without a condom. I'm very conscious and make sure we use them. Which he is okay with, and 9 times out of 10 we will use one, I've explained to him that I'm not ready for any more babies just yet, as much as they're my everything I'm not ready for number 3. I suffered both times when labour and ended up with emergency sections and am terrified of next time... But he doesn't seem to get it. It's got to the point where I'm considering going on birth control and not telling him, just to be extra safe, I took the morning after pill this morning and haven't told him because I don't want him flipping! I hate lying to him but i feel like it's going to ruin us, part of me feels like I should just give him what he wants, but I don't want to end up resenting him, or a baby! I adore the man, it would destroy me if we were to split up but I feel like it's taking over our relationship!!! Can anybody help me get through this?! What would you do?? Thankyou xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2015): Use the birth control without telling him. I'm 30, pregnant with my 5th child. Who says this is the last time he'll want to get you pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2015): Seems pretty selfish of him especially as you had to ordeal the c-sections which are no light matter and your children are still quite young. It is too much for one person! I have two friends who have had 3 sections each ... one of the ladies had no medical issues as result and made sure the last section included procrdure to make her infertile, where as the onther lady after 3rd section has had a further 7 opperations to correct the damage it did. She won't even be back to normal.It is your body, you take the risk .. after one section i would say no more! Never mind two! If you feel he will leave you because you dont want any more children then hevis a jackass who doesnt realise how lucky he is. Id rather risk being alone than risking long term medical problems.
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