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writes:Ok, I am upset and confused. My husband and I were recently discussing a fantasy that we have discussed before. It is HIS fantasy of watching me with another man either secretly or openly. This was always ok with me because it was just a fantasy and I know it's normal to have them. However, in the most recent discussion, he told me that he would love to make it a reality and if I was ready that we could start looking for someone who would be a willing participant or I could possibly just go out and meet someone and bring them home. I am freaked out! I told him how uncomfortable I was and he didn't pressure me at all but now I'm confused and depressed. If he really loves me why would he want to see me with another man?? I feel VERY devalued and as though I don't know him at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): this fantasy will turn out to be a nightmare.
do you even think he will stop with this "dream" of his or will he pressurise you until you agree.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (21 May 2009):
 Your husband is a cuckholded moron. any man that wants to see his wife bang another guy is not a guiy you should be spending your life with.
And Holly is right. Guys have the stupid ability (and women do as well, but hide it well)to say it's just sex and that no one will be hurt.
Next he will want to watch you get gang banged by some frat boys. It wont end. He will be consumed with it, and you are being devalued...you are right.
I would sit this guy down and put the fear of GOD into him by saying that this in not what you signed up for,and that if he wants to carry this through, he better get a subscription to Cinemax. If he doesnt comply....leave!
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reader, manny4201 +, writes (21 May 2009):
 i understand where your coming from and how you feel but some guys like to see that stuff to apretate what they got for example if he sees you with another man he will at first like it then he will feel jelouse about another man touching you but by all meens this dont mean do it this means dont do it so your self esteem and body will not only be a better person but you will feel stronger.
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