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writes:My boyfriend has many friends out of state and he wants to go travel and see them. He only wants to bring me on some of the trips. He says because it would be an imposition on some of his friends since their places are small and that he just wants some guy time. I think he's being very selfish and uncaring. How can he leave me like this? I don't want a boyfriend that would leave me alone while he goes to see friends. Is this reasonable? Reply to this Question
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reader, Daysie  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 My ex kept saying he wanted to go off with the lads for weekends away and space to do his own thing, but wanted to come back for his home comforts. Turned out he was a lying and cheating with another woman 200 miles away, he was lying to her too! Subsequently I kicked him out so he got all the freedom he wanted! Nothing wrong with a guy doing his own thing so long as you don't feel neglected, he doesn't lose interest in you, because while he's away you can also do you own thing and if he loves you he will wonder what you are up to, make sure you have your life too.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 February 2007):
Well, hes aloud to see his friends, as you wouldnt like it if he moaned about you seeing your friends. But, the way he does not want you to go to certain places would make me suspicious. Perhaps the cetain places he doesnt want you to go is because he maybe wants to pick up with some other girl there. Or theres someone there who he doesnt want you to meet. Let him go, but MAKE him swar complete and utter faithfulness to you. Because guys are guys, and when there together. There even worse. It wouldnt suprise me if he went off with other woman while he was there.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (11 February 2007):
 You've got it wrong, it's YOU who's being the selfish one here. Are you so insecure that you don't trust him? Come on, guys need their space as much as we do. Besides, if he's staying at a friend's house, he's told you his place is small so you wouldn't have any privacy.
Tell him to enjoy himself and have a great time. He'll be all the more looking forward to getting home to you again after it. Give him the space to miss you!
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I'm sorry but it's not reasonable. He's entitled to his own space just like you are. Guy time means time to be a man with his friends, not rock up with a girl hanging off his arm and calling each other sweetie etc. All he's asking is for some space to see his friends. If you don't allow him some freedom your relationship will not last.
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