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writes:Okay so I know some people will think this is a bit of a stupid question, but basically a guy I've been getting quite flirty with online has asked for a few pics of my body. But the problem is he hasn't really specified much and I haven't done this before, so I'm a little uncomfortable. I don't wanna take something too normal and he'll be like, no thats not what I wanted, but I don't want to take something and come across slutty either. Help please?D:
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 You think he doesn't already think of you as slutty? He does, otherwise he wouldn't have asked for those pictures. So trying not to be slutty will be a moot point.
Just google 'naked girlfriends' or other similar phrases and I'm sure you'll get plenty of images that will give you ideas. I think you'll quickly realize that there are only so many ways to photograph body parts.
As for him not liking what you send, well, beggars can't be choosers, as the saying goes. If he doesn't like them, so what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes actually, marieclaire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate the answers guys, but this guy isnt from around where i live so we don't have any mutual friends, plus i wouldnt include my face so its not like they'd recognise me. also he sent me pics of him, so like..yeah.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (16 May 2010):
Are you crazy? Do you want these plastered all over the internet for the next 40+ years?
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reader, marnan +, writes (16 May 2010):
Don't do it, he is asking for pictures of your body means he isn't interested in your face. The fact that you state you feel uncomfortable is a warning sign, so listen to it or otherwise, you may end up on the Internet for everyone to see. How could you face your friends or worse your parents if that happened.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Only do it if you are really, really comfortable and you really, really trust the guy!
How about a compromise? Ask him for pictures of him first?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 May 2010):
I like the mother test on these kinds of things. Imagine you had to explain to your mother what you were planning to do, including the details, the rationale for doing this, and basically convince her that this is a good idea.
What do YOU think could happen to those pictures. Give us a couple of possible outcomes of this, good AND bad. Think it through alllll the way to the end... when your body parts are out there in cyberland, digitally reproducing, winding up on "rate this ho" type sites, or "revenge on the ex" or "pretty (but stupid) young hot babes".
This is an extraordinarily bad idea, and you would be extremely foolish to do this.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (15 May 2010):
 A note of caution, any pictures you do send him, could end up anywhere and everywhere!! I wouldn't send him a picture of my middle finger, never mind anything else.
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reader, Blod +, writes (15 May 2010):
 I don't think you should send him any pictures. A guy who asks for pictures, especially when you're only flirting, is using you. Don't send him pictures because they can easily get around the place and that's the last thing you want. You feel uncomfortable about it so you shouldn't do it, at all! Listen to CaringGuy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 May 2010):
Don't do it. You don't know who he is or anything about him, and you feel uncomfortable. And you don't want them to end up on the web or something. Don't do it.
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