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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just started to have phone sex and share some pictures. At first it was just me in my underwear, but now he wants to see the whole thing, so I show him my breasts. He keeps asking me for the FULL picture, but Im not ready 2, but he keeps bugging me. What do can i say for him to understand that im not comfortable to take a pic.??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): If you feel strongly against it dont do it, these days that sort of thing can lead to your picture ending up in many odd places.
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I agree with A Capella, imagine if these pics ended up for all to see yuck!
If you know him a bit better, at least with the age of digital you could hand him a paper copy of a picture. In the days of taking films in to be developed it would be tricker. I certainly wouldn't e-mail any pics like that.
"All in good time!" tell him.
Then again if you waited till you see him to hand him a picture, even then he could scan a picture in and it could go to a place you wouldn't want it to.
Stay clear of that type of thing!
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (20 May 2008):
 You don't know him well enough. Don't send him any pictures that you don't want to see plastered on the Internet, just in case. What happens if the relationship ends badly and he wants to "get even?"
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Manon Thomas. Who is she? Just a dutch television personality. Somehow a video and pictures of her ended up on the net. Her claim was that they were stolen of her computer. Someone was arrested.
So, a nude video and some nude shots and goodbye lucrative guest speaker deals. No, holland did not cry out, there was no shock but she just ain't asked anymore for events.
If you make a nude picture of yourself it is all good fun, until the entire world sees it. Are you really comfortable with 6 billion people seeing you like this?
Do NOT take nude shots and especially do NOT send them to anyone who one day may hate your guts and want revenge. Not unless you are absolutely sure you have no objection to becoming an un-payed porn star.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Darling!! Ditch this guy now. He has no respect what-so-ever, and like the other aunts have said, You dont know where the pictures of you will end up. If I were you I would be tempted to tell your brother, so he knows what kind of mates he has.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Stand your ground. I understand this is a guy you like and with whom you enjoy talking to but the truth is that if he cannot respect you decision, he does not deserve you. A distant or close relationship is based on communication, trust and respect. If he cannot respect how you feel he is definitely not respecting you as a woman and as a partner/friend. You have a lot to loose with this decision regarding someone you basically only know whatever he has decided to tell you over the phone.
Be careful and stand your ground. This is your body and your decision. Best of lucks!
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reader, MsCurious +, writes (20 May 2008):
MsCurious is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni just wanted to say Thank U so much for all of u who answered my question. I really appreciate it so much and found it very helpful. Im really thinking about it and I think I might just follow ur advices. THANKS
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Please never send anything that you wouldn't want your mother to see!
You have never met this person. Online relationships encourage a false sense of intimacy. Please stop with the cyber too. You are giving far too much to someone you have never met. When does this man plan to come see you in person?
Best wishes xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): NO NO NO!!!!
Youve never met this guy honey...
Please, just think how youll feel when youre brother/dad/mates find naked pictures of you on porn websites.... honey please be sensible... You dont know this guy, youve never met him!
Ive just had friends who have done this and they have ended up on porn webpages and one of my friends webcams was being broadcast from her "bf"s computer LIVE to a porn site...
Just be careful!!!
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