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writes:I would like to ask this question to those who have been involved in extra marital affairs.I have been involved with a man married man with whom I shared feelings with for quite some time. He often tells me and convinced me he loves me very much and he will bring it to his grave the feelings of love we have for each other but there are times as well he tells blatantly on my face how I am a very small part in his life.He wants me to share with him my heart and soul and I did but when it comes to his part, he is very limited in so many ways.Is he really into me or just playing games with me all throughout our relationship, taking advantage of my vulnerabilities?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): Are you single or married? Let me guess single if not you will have had other things on your mind. Dating a married man is never easy only people in your shoes will 'get it'. The attention he gives you h/ever depends on why he's dating you. If he's dating you because he needs a little thing extra on the side then all he's ever going to give you is a little of himself. Now, if he's seeing you because he likes you you're in a better position because he'll be like a bf who can't commit to you full time. If you have to date a married man pls look for the second option I've written about because then its partly worth the attention. I should know because I'm seeing this one and there are times he needs my attention but I'm actually busy. There's nothing as fulfilling as dating someone where the feeling is mutual. You want them as much as they want you. If you're stuck with Type A, you can either dump him, or take him for who he is though it won't make you happy. Personally if I were you, I'll be shopping for a better option because they do exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): I can only answer how I am feeling right now, i am in your position too.
Anyone can say the words you want to hear, they are only words!
They say you can feel when someone really loves you, I feel that ACTIONS speak much louder than words.
I have my lover telling me by text and on the phone that he loves me, he sounds like he does, he writes like he does.
His actions though are not showing me that he does!
If he really loves you, he will want to see you ALL the time he can muster, talk to you every minute he has spare, and of course if he loves you that much he will want to give up everything else in his life for you!!!
He is married, he will have reasons and excuses of course, but he will want to see you as much as he can.
I think you will know if he is playing you, you will feel in your instincts that something is not right.
Probably you will realise that you are are, waiting for him to call you, see you, and you are on your own more than with your man, you will get to the point that it is not enough for you.
That is when you will knnow he is not sincerrely IN LOVE with you.
I hope this helps and good luck in giving up your life for a man who is with another woman, NOT YOU.
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