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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I dated a young man for some few months and he sent me a text saying he does not need the relationship again when he entered into one of the universities four years ago. He came back ten months ago and begged me for forgiveness. He said he wanted to focus on his studies. I accepted him because i still love him. We have been together for seven months now. First of all.my fear is that he is in his final year and as June gets closer i get scared that he will ask for a break-up with the excuse that he wants to plan his life and settle down before thinking of marriage.I am 24 and he will be 22 in June. Is our age difference ok?. He gives me the impression that he can't livewithout me but i can't just trust any of his words and he begs me almost everyday to wait patiently for him four years and not get married to someone else.I want to break-up with him and get married if i find someone i can love and trust at the same time. This is because i get he might finally dump me for someone younger after waiting for 4 years.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Did any of you date anyone else while you were in your hometown and he in his university away from your hometown?
- If you did and he did not, and he did not mind, there you go .. he loves you and you only.
- If he did and you did not, and you are willing to take him back, then you really love him.
- If both of you did and you are back together now, then you both love each other equally.
Did he give you any indications (or did you know of any facts) that he cheated on you while still in a relationship with you?
- If he did, and your concern that he may be unfaithful and will leave you may be justifiable.
- If he did not cheat, then you need to tell him that you are worried that with his university education and your age difference (which, by the way, means nothing if it is only 2 years apart .. and means nothing even it is 10-20 years apart as long as you love each other) may make him look down on you. If he really cared and love you a lot, he would do his utmost to convince you that you are the one he wants and not a younger woman nor any one he met at the university.
Like Gina said, it is better to be in a love marriage with mutual trust and respect, than in a loveless marriage.
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reader, Faz +, writes (5 March 2009):
He might left because he really needed to focus on his studies. Why not give another chance since i can tell you truly love him and forget about those yooung men who only come to tell cock and bull stories. Goodluck
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