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writes:I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day, i was a virgin but he wasnt.He said next time we have sex he wants me to be on top of him but i dont know how to, i really want to do this for him.Need advice on how i do this for him, what sort of things should i do to turn him on. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): I think he's asking alot, seeing how you just started to have sex. Wow, tell him to slow down a bit and when you're ready you'll try that. You have to ease into things and do more when you're ready.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (11 November 2010):
Hi,
There is no hard and fast rule about what to do when you are on top (no pun intended!!)
Just get on top of him (like you are about to ride a bike), straddle him and gently lower yourself down on his penis...and gently get a rythem going so that the 2 of you are in sync. As you become more confident, try to move yr hips side to side as well as up & down...from there on it should become natural.
Look at him when you do this and you will be able to see what subtle movements gives him/you pleasure.
Most of all relax and enjoy...let is know how you get on
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 If you have ever rid a horse, it's kinda like that..but not as bumpy. Just climb on top and let him guide your hips, meanwhile you can stimulate your clitoris..to get you more in the moment.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Don't think too much. Just climb on him and TRUST ME: everything, every move will come naturally. Being on top means that you take the lead, aka allowing him to penetrate you as deep as YOU like. The moves will just flow naturally.
Don't be scared, you'll do great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): No don't seek out porn, no need, gosh, you've only just started having sex/making love for the very first time, and surprisingly we (females)do not have to be experts to please our men, just the desire to..and learning together what you both like is wonderful.
I have to say, I think your boyfriend is perhaps being a little ' one dimensional' too eager to get you to go on top, when you have only just lost your virginity - he seems more interested in HIS OWN desires and what HE likes, rather than you becoming more and more relaxed with making love/sex full stop and moving NATURALLY into different positions as you gain experience and confidence.
I know you say you want to please him - which seems to be the desire of most women, women are natural born pleaser's, and although I'm certainly NOT saying it wrong to want to please a partner/boyfriend, it is when, when it may be down to the partner not being a caring and considerate lover to understand you are still very new to making love.
There are some really good books (NOT porn books) that you could read on positions to make love. Only I feel the most important thing for you, is just to become relaxed and certainly NOT having to worry about what position you need to get in to please your man - This is your second time!
How about him wondering how he can please you, how he can make you feel so relaxed making love that you forget about anything, and just go with your instincts, the mood, the feeling and what position you end up in..You BOTH enjoy!
Take a look at this link: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/master-woman-on-top
I hope it helps..Good luck by the way!!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): um well lets just say...its surprising how much you can learn from a porno video. search the web, i am sure you will find something that will spark your imagination.
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