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writes: Me and my boyfriend loved each other and were so happy in our relationship for 5 months. He had planned proposing! We haven't seen each other too much over the summer, though; then he said he lost feelings for me and wanted to break up. Now he's asking to be with me again and breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of his life. Should I get back with him?! please help.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (18 August 2005):
 I think the first thing you need to do is open the communication channels with him. You need to establish exactly why it was that he broke up with you in the first place. I mean, was it because you hadn't been spending enough time together or for another reason? You need to know this so you can both work together in preventing it happening again in the future.
Was he sure that he lost feelings for you? Why was that? How has his feelings suddenly returned? He should have the answers to these questions and it is important to know before you committ to him again as you don't want to be hurt. Explain all this to him. Sit down and have a heart to heart and only then, on the basis of his answers, can youd decide whether to give it another go.
Good luck.
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reader, amiee  +, writes (18 August 2005):
 heya hunni,
honestly without knowing more details of the reason he lost feelings for you i cant give you a full and accurate advice reading but i can still help you.
i feel you need to ask yourself am i ready to get back into a relationship? do i realy want him back?
answering these questions will get you that step forward to where your going.
i mean whos to say that you still like him the way you did when you first got together? no one can tell you your feelings hunny but you can.
i think you need to feel reasured that he wont let you down again and maybe thet is what you need to speak to him about before you rush back into things.
i completly understand your situation and i know it is not easy to go through this emotional reck but you will get through this and things will work out for you.
just remember to ask youself those small questions. are you ready?
good luck
amiee x
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