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female
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30-35,
*roken09
writes: I've met the guy im with from work, I have liked him for over two months and we have been together for two weeks, I'm normaly a really hard person to get through to as I have low trust in men due to past experiences and I always put up the barrier, but with him my barriers fell almost instantly.I hate admiting it but I am already smitten with him and I know he likes me, anyway, we went out for a meal and drinks saturday just gone and we had a blast, he then spent sunday with me at mine to return home that night and find his ex standing outside his flat, he invited her in and they had a talk and she wants him back.I'm not sure why or when they broke up, I know they were meant to get back together begining of december and it never happened and since then he had been ignoring her, the problem is that I know he wants her back but at the same time he doesn't want to lose me, he doesn't know what to do and the indecision is killing me.I don't want to lose him :(I'm 19 and he is 21.Even if it's not with me I want him to be happy!Help?!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 January 2010):
You are his rebound girl :( I know that sucks but if he still carries a torch for his ex I would end it. Starting up a new relationship before you are all the way over an old one is never a good thing.
I'm sorry, but I would let him go.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 January 2010):
Take the decision from him and break up. If he's not over his ex, then he's not the guy for you. It will be hard, because you've opened up to him. But you can get through this and find a guy who does love you. I think you need to address your esteem issues too, because I think you're picking guys who just don't cut the mark commitment wise. A confident girl will attract a good, confident guy. Address your esteem, focus on your life for while and just have fun. Then, when you're ready, you'll find a good guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Get away from this man. He behaves like a dog who runs after his ex the minute she calls. Either he can be a man and stand by his decision to be with you, or get lost.
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