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writes:I feel kinda dumb talking about this on the internet but I'm so shy in real life I wouldn't even begin to know how to.I have absolutely no confidence in physical appearance's attractiveness towards the opposite sex. I'm 17 years old and I've never had a girlfriend, let alone gone out on a date even.I'm always afraid that people are going to judge me by first appearance and I've gotten so insecure because of how I think...Some girls have told me that I'm hideous and that I should give up on myself, which really hurt me. I've got a large head, really chubby cheeks, and I'm actually missing a couple of teeth so I have a disgusting smile. Not to mention I'm a bit overweight.What do you think?
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reader, ibob  +, writes (23 December 2009):
It's not a dumb thing to ask on the internet! Nearly everyone has something that they hate about themselves, but usually it's something that no-one else is bothered about. I used to think that I fat and ugly but everyone said that I wasn't. If you want to build self confidence, try joining your local amateur dramatics group, that really worked for me. Or if you don't like the sound of that, what about community radio, do you have one in your area?
I know it's easy for me to say this, but if you have more confidence in yourself, you will start to project this confidence to others and then people won't pick on you. But you have to remember that people will be jealous.
As for attracting girls, remember, inner beauty! Most girls perfer guys with personality, not looks. And if they're only interested in looks, are they worth dating? How many times have you seen the model type girl with the real geeky bloke? It's the blokes personality! And think of all these hollywood movies where the 'ugly' guy wins the heart of the pretty cheerleader!
hope this helps, let me know if it does.
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