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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together two years now. He's 18, I'm 19. About a month ago, he met another girl (17) whom he really enjoys hanging out with. At first, it didn't bother me, but then he started hanging out with her a lot more than me and going to lunch with her and going to each other's houses for hours at a time. I am really, REALLY bothered by this and I haven't been able to do anything properly (eat, drink, sleep, function) since this whole thing started. We've had many talks about this and he even told me he doesn't care what I have to say about it, he's gonna do what he wants...But then he tells me he still loves me. He wants an open relationship and to have a threesome with this girl and I'm all about monogamy.Will I ever get through to him (or even keep trying)? Or should I give up and start looking for a guy who's actually going to treat me right?
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reader, Myprince  +, writes (24 November 2008):
I totally agree with 'qcumrl' and 'just a human'. Most guys use the ' I Luv U' just get away with anything. Just coz he say says he still loves you shouldnt make what he's doing okay.
You have done nothing wrong by telling him how you feel about the current situation. It's well within your right. If he truelly loves you, he will let go of the other girl and make and give you priority in his life. It's hard to believe that he even told you that he didnt care about how you felt.... c'mon..... what does that suppose to mean?
As for a three-some.... trust me, they must be having sex already... have you thought of the posibility?
My advise would be, since you have tried your best. Just walk away with dignity.... atleast your concious will be clear that you tried your best to make the relationship work.
Sad... but hey....that's life.... you gain some..... you lose some.... you move on. Just dont blame yourself, you did nothing wrong.
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reader, katatonik +, writes (24 November 2008):
 It sounds like the two of you have different priorities at this point. If lack of commitment in a relationship is a deal breaker for you (and that's a completely valid attitude to have, by the way), you may need to find yourself a new boyfriend. Good luck.
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