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writes:I don't know how to start this. But my boyfriend and I had decided to go on a two months break because of an incident that happened. Long story short, it is that we got caught. He doesn't want me to be in trouble so he suggested a month break from each other so everything could be on the down low and cool. We did this over chatting and at first I thought he was joking because he always fool around and mess with my head only to make it up later and apologize. So I take it as a joke and say we should make it 2 months to even out since we had only been officially going out for two months. It's quite ironic because that day was also our anniversary. [what are the odds of that right?] Well, he wasn't joking and so I'm stuck in this situation. I want to shoot myself when 2 months was finalized. But I kept my cool and go along with what we had decided and now I'm regretting it. Two months is too long. I have been spending practically 4 days a week with him since we date and not seeing him at all is not going to be the same. Should I tell him the truth? He did asked if I was alright with it at first and I did say no. He told me just go about like before we met because it is what he will be doing too. That hurt me a lot but I had to keep it in. The most form of communication that we use is chatting. Sometimes we text but only when needed. We hardly ever call each other. And since the break start, chatting becomes awkward. He doesn't response as much. I don't want to keep initiate the conversation. I first believe this break time is only from seeing each other. And now I'm starting to think that he's including not communicating too. Which confused me. Is it because it's 'painful' [for the lack of word] to communicate but not be able to meet me? Or is it something else? I consider myself to be cursed when it comes to relationship because I had never be able to stay with anyone for more than two months. And those break ups are completely peaceful. Neither my exes and I could prevent it. But I would recover right away because it was predicable. I was mentally prepared to leave them. But this time, I'm a mess. I never get this feeling that I'm feeling right now. I want to text him all the time but I stopped myself from doing so and just save the messages that I want to send. I don't act clingy [no offense]. I don't ask what he's doing, or where he is most of the time because I believe it's his choice to tell me. And he does the same to me too, but it's also because I'm more talkative and just spilled everything. Sometimes I feel that he thinks I'm neglectful and don't pay attention to him. Perhaps I give him too much freedom? It doesn't make him feel like he has a girlfriend? I really treasure my boyfriend. I don't want to drive him away or into a corner. I don't want to pressure him into doing anything over the tops or pamper me. He has been looking for jobs and I don't want him to spend money if we have to go out. So I always suggest that we stay home or make up excuses so we don't have to go out. Does that give him the feeling that I don't want to hang out with him in public? I don't want to tell him the truth because it might hurt his ego. I want to keep this relationship as long as I can. And we both know [although we try our best to not talk or mention about it] that eventually we will have to transfer schools. He and I will be away from each other and that is when our relationship will have to come to an end. We both hate distance relationship but what ever happens will happen. And it won't happen for another year or two because I'm still undecided. I keep having this feeling that this break is going to end our relationship. It was a big coincidence that we met and another big one that we could be dating. I don't want to let this chance go even when we know what's going to happen in the future. He always says that he will be with me for a very long time but I'm not so confidence about it anymore. Is it becuase I'm over thinking the situation while he is only trying to keep me from getting in trouble? Another big problem that I'm facing is that we planned so much things to do together during this whole break period before it started. And he always give me rides to school on a certain day of the week so that I don't have to wake up early to catch a ride with my friend. I don't know how to deal with this. I've already decided to wake up early and get ride to school with my friend so he don't have to. But I don't know how to break it to him yet. And about the activities that we wanted to do together...Should we still or should we let it go? For us, it can only happen once. I want to spend it with him as much as I can. But it's troubling me. Please help me sort out my mind. And tell me what you think about this whole mess of situation. Thank you very much
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes. We were caught by my sis. Who didn't spill anything but had this eeri aura of warning. He suggested a month but then from misunderstanding on my part. It turned into two months.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Need more info about why he initiated the break... Who caught you, what kind of trouble does he say he's trying to protect you both from? Parents?
Two months seems very odd...
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