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writes:I'm going through a lot right now. I'm going to make this short as possible. My Ex and I, were doing good. Til his so called "friend" was always around. When my ex went back to college, i looked at his call records, because he only would text me? (we also have a 18month daughter) Him and his friend would talk for hours on the phone, text all day. I was very concerned. He said they're nothing more but just friends. Well, I said lets take a break to figure all this out. I seen his friend facebook status that were about him? I contacted her, because i wanted to know the truth. Him and her been messing, been friends for years. But they do mess around. EVEN the summer he was here on break? (which we were living together, everything seemed great) and she said "i thought yall broke up? that's why we're starting our relationship". I told her everything, that we're on a break, but still together? She was mad. BUT now they fine and together?My thing is? I don't know how to move on, I am hurt, full of anger, I thought i did eveything for him. I supported him, took care of him, paid all the bills, he's up in college, i'm here working, college, and taking care of my child. And he was with his "FRIEND" behind my back?! I still have this deep feelings for him!! I wanna move on, but something telling me not too? that maybe this can work, and I HATE the fact that she is with him, she should have karma on her!! SHE KNEW we were together, she was just to good friend?! "nothing to worry about"!! just sickin's me. She wanted to be the side girl. I know i should be like FORGET you both. Because he gonna do the same to her. But, i'm confused. I want my family, i feel like i gave my soul to him, and he is playing with it. I wanna crawl back to him........knowing i shouldn't, i just have faith one day he will change? and noticed he will not find someone else like me?... I feel stupid, and disgusted. I looked stupid for 5 years. ( thats how long we were together) I'm very hard headed. It's even harder, with a child involved. She's not use to getting dropped off with him, and days later i'll come pick her up, she doesn't like it. too young to understand.Any advice please? I need hope that I CAN move on and be strong, that i'm gonna be happy in the end, and he's gonna be the one looking stupid.Advice please...
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reader, allieb19 +, writes (14 October 2010):
I am in a very similar situation! I feel your pain, my fiance cheated with a 'friend' and we've been together 6.5 yrs. I think you should go with your heart and if you believe he can change and is willing to admit his mistakes then you can consider working through it with counseling and alot of time and trust rebuilding. Let me know how it works out. Try to keep your head up and don't blame yourself.
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (11 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) Hun, don't show any interest. You can't keep thinking about him all day, that's the first step in the process.
You'll get support from family, and friends. If he really cared he wouldn't have gone with her. You did all the supporting, I mean you go to college, you take care of a kid, I have so much respect for you. I mean does he have a job? No. But you do so.. He'll end up trying to sneak his way back with you just for your benefits because what does his 'good' friend have for him. Nothing what so ever! You'd be better off just going your own separate way, and it's possible so don't think it is. It just takes time to cope with, and you will meet someone else who is RIGHT for you and your child, and wont do that horseplay crap. Remember; You are strong, don't even think you aren't. :)
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