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writes:I'm a 25 year old woman and my husband's 26. We've been married for He told me that he wants a threesome with me and another guy involved. I told him outright no, but he insisted we should do it. I asked him if this was just a ruse so he could have a threesome with another woman, but he insisted that threesomes must always have two men in them and never be man/woman/woman and that they should be man/man/woman, and that he'd "do stuff" with the guy if he had to, for my pleasure. He said he'd done his "research", and said from what he'd heard, some women like guy-on-guy action so he said he'd do it for me if I wanted to! Yeuch!I told him this was a bad idea, and pretty disgusting, but he's insistent that we do it.I don't like threesomes, they just damage relationships in my opinion, but he won't hear any of it.He's just insistent that this should happen. I asked him where he got his ideas from, and he said from the Internet and webforums.He's not into porn, so why he would suggest this is beyond me.I tried talking to him to find out why he is so insistent about it, but he changed the subject.How can I get him to see sense? If you were in my situation what would you do??Help me please!! This is causing me untold stress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Sounds like your husband wants to experiemnt with another guy and is using excuses to get you involved with a threesome.
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reader, Kitzy  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 My ex was always on about 3somes! He would even be walking with me round the shopping mall and picking out other women to see if i would mind! I know this is about 2 men 1 woman, but seriously do NOT let him pressure you, if you dont want to do it DONT! it will wreck any relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): DONT! DONT! DONT! please. I've been down that road and its not worth it, your end up hating yourself, he doesn't respect or love you. His just using you. Pack your bags and run please x
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reader, 48years  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 This sort of thing is more common that it used to be when I was younger... I would shame him into thinking that he was just a trend follower... and ask him with one eyebrow raised, "..and what happens if I like him better than I like you, dear?".. I might also tell you that 3somes are usually with 2 girls, not two men, that is, unless you're gay.
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reader, ez4u2say  +, writes (22 May 2009):
He is bisexual and already thinking of cheating, run and run fast!!!!!!!!!!!1
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): If You don't want it...then don't do it! Don't compromise yourself for anyone!
I got into something I didn't want to do...and although my ex has passed on, and it was probably about ten years ago the experience still haunts me! It was the worst night of my entire life!
Don't give in to make him happy if it is going against you better judgement! Stick to your guns! NO MEANS NO!
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reader, summerain +, writes (22 May 2009):
If he won't accept "NO" then tell him to hit the road! I have been in a similar situation and it's a sickening suggestion from someone you love and care about. Please don't do anything that you're not comfortable with because it will cause a rift in your marriage which will probably break the two of you apart and then you will be stuck with a broken heart on top of shame for doing something you are so against! I am also concerned that he is pushing you so much. The suggestion is bad enough but when you told him you didn't like the idea he should have been ok with that and shouldn't be pressuring you. That kind of pressure leads to feelings "not enough for him", depression and insecurity. Not only do I think that you SHOULD NOT do it, I think you should consider if you want to spend your life with a man who would try to force you to. However, keep the lines of commuication open with him and give him the chance to correct his behavior. Hopefully he will. Good luck!
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reader, btflower +, writes (22 May 2009):
 I totally agree with Gina. He isn't wanting this for your pleasure its more for him. don't drop your shield stick to what you want and believe in. let him know if he is not pleased with your decision then thats his problem. you deserve better than to have someone try and force something on you that you are not interested in. and one more thing i agree with you that is disgusting.
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