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writes:Hi,Recently a couple of my boyfriends friends have become pregnant and had babies and i can see its making him broody. I on the other hand have no interest in children. i find it so hard to feign interest when we meet up with them. I have told my bf that i dont see children in my future..i dont want them-im 29 and he is 34.I have suggested we split up as we want different things..he refuses to split and i know he thinks i'll change my mind. Im starting to resent him as i dont feel that i will have to go through all the pregnancy,body changes,birth and then he gets to go to work and i'll be stuck at home.I dont know what to do,i love him but not enough to want a baby with. We have been together 6 years.Advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Children are a big deal. If you stayed with him and some day caved into having his child- you would resent him for it. The decision to have a child needs to be %100 with both parties involved. Let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): 6 years together or not, this is a deal breaker. He wants kids, you don't.
To cut to the chase, the time has come for you to go your separate ways. Hopefully he'll meet up with someone who wants kids. It's not you, so why prolong the agony?
He has to realise that not all women are maternalistic, and it doesn't make them any less of a woman for being so. If this is such a big deal for him it's time that both of you went your own way.
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