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writes: Last year my boyfriend ended it with a girl he was seeing to be with me. Well, when they were seeing each other she had gotten him an expensive tool that he wanted for his birthday. So, by the time Christmas rolled around (and he was with me) he asked me if it would be okay if he got her a Christmas present and met up at lunch with her and her new boyfriend to give it to her. I can see that if they had remained friends after they ended it it would be okay. But since I wasn't going to be there I felt uncomfortable and said no. I later looked at one of his text messages from her and she even thought it was a little random and weird. He ended up proposing to me last December, but I just recently broke up with him. Was his behavior weird? He kept justifying it saying that if someone gets him a nice gift he wants to return the favor. But, they weren't dating anymore and he was with me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): I don't know if you should leave him due to it, but it's still a little weird. Caring or not, he should be buying you presents not her. If he feels that bad, give it back or give her the money for it.
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 It just showed his caring nature, I would have done the same as him, if you receive a nice gift it's only fair to reciprocate the act when the oppurtunity arises (birthday, crimbo whatever). I think you have definately over-reacted there.
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reader, love-him +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hi babe, i dont think it is ok for him to be still involved with his ex especially giving them prezzies.. look after yourself and dont let him hurt you like that again, Feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): I wouldnt be too chuffed with that one, but i hate exs so there. If they are exs then why do they have to buy them presents? Unless he wanted to get back with her some time in the future. You behaved perfectly well, i would of gone nuts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, you don't get it. They were never remaining friends, they hadn't even talked, let alone introduced me. Out of the blue he just wanted to get her a present. That's why she thought it was weird too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Your behavour was normal, but a little unfair. If they wanted to stay friends and continue sending presents to each other then you should have let them. Imagine if you were still friends with your ex and your boyfriend said you couldn't send him a present?THINK. Otherwise it's not fair.
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