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writes:Alright, So the guy I'm talking to is amazing. Never has given me reason to doubt him or to think that he is going to hurt me. The first time one of my close friend's told me she thought he was going to be the type to hurt me, I took that to the head and he told me that he wasn't going to and that she has no reason to say that if she doesn't even know him. And he is correct. But it's difficult when in your past all you have been through is trust issues and being hurt and what not. Well last night, that's all I kept thinking of. Him hurting me and doing me dirty like my past. and on status i wrote that I had a rough night and he wanted me to explain. I didn't bother. But he was bothered by that and it upset him so I told him. I told him that I'm not doubting him and I trust him when he says he's not going to hurt me but that the thought came to mind and he wanted to know what triggered it. I'm not very good when it comes to conversations with him on the phone either... How do I explain all this to him???This is what I came up with: he's the one that wanted to know what was on my mind and that's what i gave him ; the truth! and i made it clear to him that I'm not doubting anything I'm just a little scared that my feelings for him are getting stronger . my old habits about trusting guys are kicking in and I'm trying to stop them cause i wanna follow my heart with this one . I'm afraid of the unknown but I'm happy at the same time cause you think I've found someone that's actually keeping it real with me. **side note; people who have been hurt practically their whole life tend to question their ability to love again** Reply to this Question
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
It is very normal to have trust issues! you have been through alot. let me tell you a little about me? i had big time trust issues and i met someone that i felt so comfortable with that i could tell him anything and that it wouldn't make him run and he didn't. so honesty is the most important thing in a relationship! you'll know if hes the right one for you and if so nothing you tell him should scare him off and if it does? then hes not ready for what ever? but what do you got to lose think about it if he does leave hes doing you a favor better now then down the road before it hurts to bad in losing him. just be you and at least you will know that you put everything into the relationship!believe me it will make you feel better knowing you was honest no matter what he thinks. and you need to give him a little credit you know what i mean and let him feel the way he needs too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): its ok to feel like the past is gonna happen again but if he hasnt given you a reason not to trust him maybe you can give him the opportunity to take this relationship to another level.letting go of the past is tough but if this love is what you say it is then letting go might not be that hard.life is all about chances and risks so my honest advice is take another chance put your heart on the line and take a risk of getting heart broken.From what it sounds like it doesnt seem likely with this guy, it sounds like hes different so dont stress hope that hel0ped
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