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writes:Dear Cupid...having a lil bit of trouble, i really like this guy ( I'm 16 and he is 14) and i know he likes me as he has told me he loves me, the thing is my best friend went out with him and he used her, now he has another gf and he cheated on her with me!! i didn't know he had a gf at the time, all we did was kiss ( quite passionately) but i feel really bad 1. because he cheated on his gf with me and 2. because he is my best mates ex and I'm not sure what to do about it, i really really really like him and i want a long term relationship with him, is it wrong to want this with a best mates ex?????? any tips would be most appreciatedthank you all....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your quick responces, feeling much better and am now putting things in to perspective... thankies again
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): He is 14, I gaurantee he doesn't know what this word means in its full capacity; there are grown adults who don't know it's full meaning.
I say this as knowing it is living it.
That 14 year old boy has cheated on his Ex and used your Mate...he isn't about love. This shows he only gets what he wants and who cares if he rips through other people to get it. This shows lack of respect for the opposite sex, lack of compassion for others feelings...
He isn't a good catch and as a Mom...I say far from date worthy.
Heart breakers should be avoided as well as cheaters, users, abusers, and those who love only themselves.
Take Care Kiddo.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Well liking a guy who cheated on his girlfriend with you is not a good start. If he cheated on her what makes you think he won't do it to you? I know you didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know he had a girlfriend at the time but if he'd do it to her it is very likely that he'd do it to you. He is the ex of your best friend, again not ideal. But if your friend doesn't mind then I suppose it's ok. I'm not sure if a long term relationship could happen with someone who isn't exactly trustworthy.
For your own good and for your own peace of mind I would suggest that you find a more suitable boyfriend who you can trust who hasn't dated your best friend. If you think you'll be happy with him then go ahead, but if he cheats on you don't be too surprised. I know I've probably made you feel a lot worse now because I know you really like him but I'm just being real with you and telling you the possibilities if you do decide to date him. At the end of the day it's up to you, so do what you feel is best and whatever you choose to do I hope there will be no regrets. xx
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