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writes:Can someone explain to me why I can't get over someone even though he used me? We're the same age but I was still naive. Basically I fancied him, and he knew. He asked out one of my closest friends, and being a good friend she asked itf it was okay. I said yes so they went out. He must've got bored of her or something because on our way home he would ask me stuff, nothing personal, and after a few weeks he said to me that he didn't want to go out with me but I could kiss him. He was still going out with my friend so I said no but he kept going on and on about it, and I started to get suspicious because he was saying the same thing to my best friend. Eventually he kissed me and that was the end of it but he told my best friend that he wanted to kiss me to get rid of his girlfriend and kiss my bbf to get rid of me. I wouldn't dream of going after him again since he now has a rep as a dick head and I hate him honestly, but why can't I get over him. I see his parents a lot of the time and they a literally the nicest people ever, as is his sister. Its like every time I see them I forget he's a huge jerk. Why can't I get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone, i know it was the wrong thing to do but I didn't mention that I had told my friend and she broke up with him anyway. I'm mad at myself for even getting involved with him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 September 2012):
 Are you sure you are more mad at him or yourself for being duped?
Let it go, the guy is an asshat and one of these days he will get a dose of his own medicine.
Don't waste your life with "hating" people because the only person that "hate" hurt is you. You are the one being mad, feeling bad, not the person you "hate".. so you surround yourself with negative emotions which is draining.
Just accept that he pulled a fast one on you and that he is an idiot and next time... don't kiss guys who are dating your friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): You're obviously attracted to a.holes.
The fact that you knew it was wrong to kiss him while he was with your best friend, but you went ahead anyway, proves that.
I believe this makes you as bad as him in my book.
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reader, Wow123 +, writes (7 September 2012):
You can't date a lad just cos of their family but he does sound like a real dick! If he used you tell him how you feel try and get him alone and tell him you don't like the way he treated you, get your best friend to as well. If you do it in public it would be really awkward so I would do it in private, then rumours won't start. Maybe you don't hate him, he used you and in my opinion dating wouldn't be an option as he could do it again, but maybe you tell yourself you like him when you see his family. try and find a new crush. Don't waste time on him, because he cheated on his girlfriend with you. Don't blame yourself though, sometimes pressure can get to the better of us!! Just act confident and find someone else you like, then again you don't even need a boyfriend, being single is just as great
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