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writes:hiya. i've been with my boyfriend 3 years..basically it was boyfriends 21st last night and i was invited to go out with him and his friends (which is very rare), but we went out. there was me, him, 3 of his lad mates and 1 girl. the girl was nice and i was talking to her, but on the dance floor he put his hands around her waist, whilst having his around mine to dance to.. and he put his hands on her face, (like you would if you were to kiss them) and he kept touching her tummy, (she was wearing a crop top) and i was just stood there. i didn't know how to take it. but then he walked off and left me in town with his friends (he was very drunk) and i was really upset because he knows we don't get on and he had just walked off. i hadn't got any money with me either.how exactly am i meant to take it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2011): Thank you so much for your advice. I will be certain to take this on board. I'm not sure what I feel about the whole situation, obviously because he was very drunk, but he knows that I won't tolerate that in a relaiotnship.. I told him all that happened, that his sleaze ball friend was there when he left me & that I was uncomfy & now he's forbidden me to be around the guyt. The last of nights out with them then!!!!
I'm sure it will figure itself out because I know I'm not making a big deal out of nothing here, thank you so muhccccchhhh
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reader, N91 +, writes (20 June 2011):
 You have every right to be p****d off I'll tell you that. Let him know that you're not happy with him blatantly flirting with another girl right in front of you and also leaving you stranded in town whilst he disappeared.
Keep an eye on his behaviour in future and if it continues where he is showing you a lack of respect, then you need to have a serious word with him and question whether the relationship is worth working on.
Good luck
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 June 2011):
 I would be more upset about him leaving you in town, than a bit of drunk dancing with the other girl!
But from what you have said about him in this short post, he doesnt sound like a great boyfriend to be honest! You have said the following:
1. He doesnt invite you out with his friends
2. He was flirting with a girl in front of you
3. He gets very drunk when going out
4. He left you on your own with his friends with no money to get home.
5. You dont get on with his friends (perhaps the reason why he doesnt invite you out?!)
A man's friends say a lot about the type of person the man is - so if you dont like his friends chances are he is similar to them (similar types of guys hang out together) and chances are there is a lot about him you dislike too.
I think you need to have a good talk with him, tell him how you feel and that his behaviour is not acceptable. He sounds like a rubbish boyfriend so I think you need to get tough with him, make sure he starts acting like a proper boyfriend otherwise you should get out of there. There are plenty of better guys out there, you dont need to be wasting your time with someone like him.
If he says he will try and change and act better, then great - if not, dont stick around and waste your time with him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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