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writes:My boyfriend of one year (we have our first aniversary this week) told me last night .. in the middle of kissing, to stop! I didnt understand what he ment .. he said He is tired of kissing me for this long.It was not like we were kissing for no reason, he knew it will go somewhere, since we were alread without our clothes off and I was playing with his "thing" .. he told me t kiss it ... I would, but I wasnt ready yet, and I kept kissinghim on lips, to make myself ready .. and he just pushed me away and told me "enough kissing already! I am tired of it. We have been kissing for an hour now" which wasnt true, cause it was like 15min max! We always kiss this long, he never said anything before. Why did he do this? I was so mad .. couldnt sleep all night and Now Idont even feel like kissing him again. Didnt kiss him good morning, or when he dropped me off at work .. just "have a good day" thats it ... I just feel soooo NOT WANTED? ... I dont undertand
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I agree with the lady ... I think your guy just wanted to get the preliminaries over with and get down to the real action sooner than you were ready to do that. He went about it in a really clumsy way, but that seems to be the clear message.
For one episode I sincerely recommend forgiveness. Don't mess things up just because he got impatient and handled it very badly. If he pulls that kind of cr*p again, though, I wouldn't blame you if you got up right in the middle of things and just walked away from him. If he's going to display the sensitivity of an armadillo he may need a strong dip in cold water to give him a reality check. Let him know in no uncertain terms that while you are willing and eager to see that his needs get met, you have needs of your own and you're going to expect to be treated gently and with respect. Or he can just go kiss himself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Bad breath?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I think you may be blowing this out of proportion. He may have been in a bit of a hurry and wanted to get right to it and didn't feel like a lot of foreplay. Now if he starts pulling this every time you guys have sex then you might need to address it, but one time makes you feel unwanted?
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