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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I Need help..well me n my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and hes always been pretty quiet.i would always have to think of things to talk about n what not..i love him and he tells me he loves me but just a few weeks ago he told me he wants me to be more controlling of him? and he said that thats what his ex use to do?he said that yelling at him is the only way to get things threw to him? so i took his advice and i started to be a little more controlling..and well the last time he called me was on the 28th of december iv had to call him everyday since i mean he picks up the phone but he always says ill call you back then doesnt..then today he just answered it then didnt answer it like 10 minutes later and hes becoming distant..he goes threw these phases but i dotn know if i can take it anymore..i need help i dont know if i should break it off or just keep holding on hoping it will get better??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): He sounds a very moody up and down individual. Run like hell. I was with someone like that and they nearly did my head in! Get rid now while you still have your sanity. These are mind games that he is playing with you and they do no one any good!!! He wants to shout at him just like his ex. Yes shout at him, tell him to BUGGAR OFF!! This one will drag you down!!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 hi there
it sounds like he has lost interest in this relationship, look at it this way he wants you to behave like his ex what is that? maybe he does find controlling women being sexy but mentioning his ex to the equation is never good, i think he misses her or wants her back and he thought if u act a bit like her it will help him forget her but it didnt.
and i dont think following his wishes has anything to do with it, so dont blame yourself bcos you did nothing wrong. i think give it two or three days to cool off if he still doesnt fone you then pick up the fone and tell him how you feel ask him if he can come over and help you understand why he is behaving this way, if he is not keen on the idea maybe breaking it off might be the best thing u can do to solve this, i know its not gonna be easy but it is the only way to put your mind at rest under the circumstances and i dont think you will get that anytime soon as he seem emotionally and physically unavailable to you.
good luck
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