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female
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36-40,
*unnyside
writes:I have a predicament. I recently broke off a 2 year relationship with my great boyfriend. The problem was that currently he is away at school, while I am at home. Even though he is only about an hour away, it is still hard for me because I want to see him so much. Over the past two years, we have gotten into a few fights over my friends. He likes some of my friends, but he has never tried to get close to them for some reason. Whenever I confront him about it, he apoligizes and says he will try, but doesn't. I have also felt that I have been giving, giving, and giving, but I haven't been getting everything I need back. However, I don't want to make him seem like a bad guy because I love his so much. He makes me smile, he is sweet, and he cares for my family so much. Just a few days ago, I decided to end it, and it crushed him.He cried and told me that he feels guilty that he hasn't done everything in this relationship that he was capable of doing. He told me that he loved me, admired me, and appreciated me for everything I've done for him, and I truly believe that because he's a fantastic guy. About my friends, he finally told me that he believes he never gave my friends a chance because it would force him to "step out of his comfort zone (he was never a guy that opened up to people easily), and he told me that this was unfair and disrespectful to you. He feels horrible that he finally had to realize this when it's too late. He also kept telling me that he wishes he would have said he loved me more, kissed me more, hugged me more, danced with me more even though I knew that he was trying to do all those things. Words won't do justice from what I'm trying to say because my mind is going crazy. I love him to death and I know he loves me to death as well, but I just don't know what i want right now. Maybe I've been depending on him too much to make me happy and because he is alway at school, he's been having a hard time doing that. Maybe it really is me and not him. He told me that all he needs is one more chance to prove to me that everything will be alright because I am the most important thing to him, but I'm just so confused! What is my problem?
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (29 April 2007):
 him being away ! your attached to him and him being away makes you feel out of place and you cant seem to find the problem maybe you need to start making your self happy instead of having him to smile about. i hope all goes well im not much help i know but he seems like he deserves just one more chance what do you got to lose?
lots of luck xoxo
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