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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid, I have been with my boyfriend about three years now, the other night we got into a heated argument about how it is heard for him being a 20 year old guy and staying faithful and trying to resist temptation... well this lead to him to confess that one night he decided that we were not going to be together forever so he called up some girl (a friend I suppose) and made plans to have sex but he said he just couldn’t do it. I don't know what to do he told me I should just be thankful that he didn’t go through with it . I am the same age as he and faithful….what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): I understand and support that you may love your boyfriend and he loves you, but he clearly is bucking the idea of settling down with you and he is expressing his desire to be free to date other people.
I personally think that your ages tell me that you are too young to get so tied down to each other....relationships at this age are more often than not ---not meant to be forever. In fact relationships that start at the age of 18 are very very highly likely to end in divorce....this is beccause you change so much as you get older, you don't really know at this age what your life holds in store for you or what your true values and personality are....this takes some time to unfold and reveal itself to you.
This does not take away from the importance or the love you feel for your current boyfriend should you end up moving on....this is a very important and profound connection that you have made and has had a part in creating the person you are today and what you will seek in the future.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I think the fact you said that it was said in a "Heated Arguement" will probably explain it. Sometimes, when we row or argue with our partner, we say bad things. Sometimes, when we row or argue with our partner we say Awful, Hurtful things in the heat of the moment. I think this is the case here; as you said you`ve been together for 3 years, and haven`t said there were any other problems. Please try to put this behind you, and look to the Future. Please don`t let angry words said in a row spoil what you two share. Let it Go, He Loves YOU. Kind Regards, Heather.
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