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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi allI have a bit of a problams im kinda falling for this guy i met through a friend who told me 2 add this guy on facebookYes i no its also bad but i have already slept with him, but i dont regret it one bit Anyway my problam is im not sure what he actually thinks of me and dont really no how 2 ask him this, we talk mostly everyday and he seems a really nice person, we also talk through txtHes even asked me to send pictures of myself like of rude pics, ive only sent my boobs nothing else,But this is where my really problam lays hes going to be doing work on my house next week and on a recent messege he put in there HE MAY EVEN LET ME RAPE HIM ive never really had a guy say that 2 me before about me having 2 come onto him first and him telling me through a messege i had 2 do this to him Is this normal for a guy to want a girl to so call rape him???And nother thing is he keeps saying things like no u nob Is that an insult thing to a girl, i think its messing around as my ex used 2 say it but my friends say its an insult Tahnks for reading and if anyone can help please doTake care xxx
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 I think he definately likes you and is being light hearted and funning with ya.
I call people nob's/knob's, both male and female and dont mean anything by it - just that they have done, thought, or said, something a bit silly. I would not say it if I seriously meant to have a go at someone.
Rape is not the best word coz well, rape is a serious matter in the proper legal context, ... that said, I have had my man say I've 'raped him' and in the context of our relationship, it pretty much means that I came on to him first, was kinda vigorous about it, have probably ripped his clothes off, pushed him on to his back, pounced on top of him (lol), and most definately have been on top during intercourse.
Naturally he loves being 'raped' by the definition he means it in, says it jokingly, likes me being dominate, and it's really no big deal.
So, based on that, I would say this guy is a little unsure if he should make a move, but would love you to do it first, be direct about it, possibly (probably) a bit dominate, and you are pretty much guaranteed that there will not be a 'knock back'.
So go for it ...lol. I dont think either comment is intentionally insulting in the slightest!
Don't do the piccy thing tho! Admittedly I do send my guy the occassional naughty text msg pic for a laugh, but he is not some guy I met via facebook, that I have slept with once, and with whom I dont know where I really stand. I also know his maturity level, respect level, how emotionally close we are, the trust level betwen us, etc, etc. Until that level is established, seriously dont go there lest your boobs end up on facebook! Arrrggghhhhh!!!!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Guys enjoy being seduced (not raped) by someone they find attraction to, just as women do. I think he's just being playful with you. If you want to know how he feels about you, just ask him.
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