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writes:when we first met my boyfriend told me he had had a threesome in the pasti didnt want to know this. we have been together for ages and it is eating me alive to know the details.i feel like i need to know but i dont really want to know because thinking about it causes me physical pain.all i know is that it was with his ex girl friend and her friend.i know that after they split up he was at a party with a friend and ended up crashing out on the sofa together (nothing happened), his ex found out and it caused problemsits killing me to know how it happened and why it happened and i feel like such a novice in comparisoncan anyone fill in some blanks for me or at least tell me what to do?saying "just forget about it" is great advice but ive really tried to do this already and i cant
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Hi hun dont feel a novice in comparison he didnt have to tell you he was being honest with you, I understand why you want to no, Its hurting you as you think he had a great time and your head keeps telling you it was better than you two are together. If that were true he wouldnt be with you now, everybody goes through different sexual experiences in life. And he did tell you when you first met, when we first meet someone we dont feel as close as we will do as time goes on, I no men have other ways of feeling about things like this i have alot of male friends, i think you are probably thinking about it more than he is which in the past ive done myself, But believe me you are wasting so much negative energy worrying so much its going to make you ill. Im not going to tell you to forget it i understand how hard it is, just try and put it in perspective its in the past he loves you... when we think about things like this our minds work overtime and somehow we turn it into something quite different, our fantasies go overboard untill we are a mental wreck, Im sure your boyfriend would hate it to no your hurting so much, i hope this has helped a little take care of you and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): An ex of mine used to brag about threesomes and I used to get quite concerned about it even jealous. Not that I wanted to have one myself. He never ever suggested that we had one and looking back I think he said all those things because I was more experienced than him in the bedroom. So take it with a pinch of salt, he couldn't have respected these girls now could he?? Don't let him make you feel insecure, you're probably great in bed and he feels threatened by you that's all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Well actually you should be really happy that your boyfriend feel comfortable enough to be honest with you about his past.
Not alot of people can do that.
If you feel intimidated by his sexual experience you need to be honest with him and tell him that you feel less experienced than him.
No one likes thinking of thier partner with another person but everyone has a past and its that past that makes us fall inlove with the present.
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 June 2007):
 hia babe i know completely wot ur on about its so hard to forget things like that.. yoo wont to know but deep inside yoo know its hurtin yoo cos yoo wish he wos with yoo. but yoo gotta remember.. the relationship didnt work out with her.. he didnt like her as much as he likes yoo.. which is why he is with yoo.. think of it as it was a mistake he made.. yoo have made mistakes in ur life (if yoo havent ur bluddy lucky =]) and just try push it too the back of ur mind.. as time goes on yoo will eventualy forget it.. hope i helped chick mail me if yoo wonna talk x x x
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