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writes: I met this guy about a month ago and we have been communicating and hanging out together ever since then. He stated very clearly in the beginning that he was not looking for anything more than friends. However, in the last few days he has been talking about wanting to settle down and have children before he is 35--he's 31 now. We became intimate this past weekend and of course, my emotions became much more intense. I liked him from the very beginning and I could very easily fall in love with him. He has gone out twice with other girls but is very honest with me about it and I don't think he is intimate with anyone else--at least he said he isn't and I have no reason not to trust him. Am I wrong for wanting to hang on to him in the hopes that something more than just friendship will come out of this? We act like boyfriend/girlfriend and are together doing something every night of every weekend. Can someone please help and let me know whether or not I'm crazy for liking this guy so much? Thanks!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2005): It's pretty simple. Since in the beginning, he has outlined his expectations, you just reciprocate and do the same.
what he says about settling down and what he does are Definitely 2 different things. You'll find that Words are just WORDS unless followed up by action. People in general start talking like that when they start feeling new feelings for the other person. They themselves are going through the change. And there will be many more changes.
Really, if being physically intimate with him is a big deal to you; you need to tell him that. The only way to make sure you both are on the same page is to Just Tell Him! And make sure he reciprocates in that communication. If he doesn't, there's a big chance he either doesn't know how or doesn't feel the same and not sure yet how to tell you. Good luck!
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