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writes:My fiancé and had been getting along really well. He is close to fifty. He was laid off and was struggling to deal with that and the fact that his dad was very sick. We went up to a cottage together where, one night I got really mad at at him. I was drunk and behaved badly, just yelling though, about how I resented his not helping me clean. I acted horribly but didn't mean anything I said. I never get like that it is totally out of character for me. Anyway his dad died when we got back from the cottage. He didn't speak to me to two weeks. I was so distraught and worried anout him. He sent a few really mean and nasty emails. But now it has been two months later and he is sorry and realizes he was wrong. He is offering to do anything to get me back. He said hd never intended to break up with me and that I am not understanding his grieving.Totally confused.He told me acted that way because he was angry at me at grieving. Is that reasonable?
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 Yeah it is....You should be apologising to him, not him to you.Blame alcohol all you want, but that was just insensitive ion your part,BTW...I think it is an indicator that yuou cant handle booze, so stop drinking.I myself have spent the last weekend at the hospital because I had to witness my 92 year old father nearly die from a seizure on Friday. I think if I was in his position and had your drunken act applied on me, Id have thrown you out of the cottage that night on your butt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Yes, I think that is very reasonable, you owe him an apology and he has already apologized to you.
Don't let these tough economic times and personal stress ruin your otherwise good relationship. If drinking makes you a raving maniac, then you know what you need to do.
I would just wipe the slate clean if you love each ohter, just move forward. I am sure he was really hurting because his father died after a long illness, it is a tough thing to lose someone to illness and to lose a parent at any age.
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