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writes:Hi everyone, thanks for reading.I met my ex from riding, we meet on Easter weekend, at the time I was looking for a place to move, and so was he, so we decided to shared a place, few days before we move in to the house, we became boyfriend and girlfriend, and we still decided to move in together, about 3 weeks ago, I found out he had a couple of girls at our house while I wasn't there, I got very upset, because he actually lied and said he was at a friend's place, but actually he was home with these 2 girls, we had a long chat, and he said he wouldn't lie to me again, and that he was very sorry, so things were going fine, we go for rides on the weekend etc, and then last week, I found out he's been in contact with his ex, (they broke up about 2 months before we met) and her ex asked about me because she saw the picture on facebook. and this is what he said. ""That is not girl friend that is scary housemate who I feel I have to babysit. You are my girlfriend, you are my love, my one and only.I can't afford to get my own place yet, I may need to sell the bike. Or if I can put my stuff in storage, I can live on a couch at Barry. It's all too hard. Why can't it be how I had our weekend holiday house and we live in together again?!""after I saw this, I confronted him and asked him to move out.he left and he's coming back this weekend to pack his stuff.I feel I want to talk to him and get some closure, do you think it's a bad idea??? I'm very hurt by his action, he had every chance not to move in, because we had long chat about our situation and yet he said that's what he wanted and wants to spend the rest of his life with me ..... I find it very difficult to move on... not knowing what went wrong, was it me?
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reader, Polly1122333 +, writes (21 June 2013):
Polly1122333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all the replies.
Lesson learnt, I made a mistake of letting him move in
Saw him briefly when I got home after work, he was just leaving.
He said truck is coming at 9am, and he said he's sorry, and that I deserve someone better, and lead over to hug me..... I cried... I'm such a loser, and I told him to leave the keys and the form signed on the bench tomorrow when he's done.
Now I'm at a friends place til Sunday
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 June 2013):
 What exactly are you expecting from him? An apology? Because the ONLY reason you would get one of those is because he wants something from you, as in a place to live or a bed to share.
Accept that he is a douche. You dated a douche.
IF you were the one he wanted to BE with he would tell his ex or ANY other girl that you are some "scary ROOM MATE". THAT however doesn't MAKE you a scary room mate it just makes him a creepy douche.
Don't waste any more time on him. Block him, delete him whatever you got to do to get him out of your life.
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reader, indee15 +, writes (19 June 2013):
 No, it wasn't you. This guy is just a player. Do not talk to him, in fact avoid contact at all cost. No guy should ever treat you that way and tell others that you're someone they babysit, that's just so disrespectful and the world is so big of nice respectful guys. Forget about him.
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