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writes:Hi..I need some advice please, sorry if it's a little confusing....i've been with my bf for over 1 1/2 years and i love him very much. However, he cheated on me (kissed a girl twice) when we were dating for only 2 months and he admitted to it about 6 months ago. It was very difficult for me to handle b.c it sorta ruined our "perfect" relationship, we even took a break, but i realized i loved him too much to let it bother me and forgave him. Anyway..last night we got into a fight..long story..and he ended up saying that the reason we fight sometimes is bc he tries to make everything perfect. I responded by saying that nothing in life is perfect and he should realize that. He really felt hurt by this comment because he assumed i was talking about him..he said that if nothing is perfect or can ever be perfect then he should just stop trying then. He apologized for not being the perfect boyfriend because of what he did and he felt really badly last night. I am so horrified that i said that to him bc truth is he is so wonderful to me and puts me first for everything, and i dont let his past mistakes ruin our relationship. I just dont know what to say to him to make this all better because he thinks he'll never be perfect for me and we'll never have the perfect relationship and maybe some other guy is perfect instead for me. I told him i was sorry that i said all that and that i didn't mean that he could never be perfect for me, i just don't know what to say to make him believe me...please help thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Hello. try tell him that you realy love him and that you can try work things out together.
when you appologise to him say it 1 or 2 times so he know you mean it, the regular: im sorry, every 5 minutes would make it seem as if you dont realy care.
an extreamly good thing would be to show him the post you did here, and the replies you get, just to show him that you actualy worked for it.
im sorry if you didnt get the answer you liked, but someone else may reply better then i did.
Thanks
Michael Bo Andersen
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