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writes:I need some help.. I have been with my partner for nearly 5 years and have a small child together. Everything was fine until one day he came home and said he had a feeling i was cheating on him (something i would never do) and said his feelings were going for me. He said if he didnt think i was cheating he would still have the feelings for me. We both want it to work out as we love each other but is there any chance he can get them back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Yea hes probably trying to divert attention from himself unto you!Also hes pulling away emotionally because that will Inevitably happen after you have cheated on you lover.GUILT DEPRESSION EMOTIONAL NUMBNESS GUILT etc...
I cant really tell you what to do and how to solve the situation but if you want to forgive him "IF HE DID INDEED CHEAT" and work on the relationship id recommend Couples therapy or "How to rekindle PASSIONATE LOVE".
But yea theres variables here that can change so not sure what to say ..sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): Yeah, something triggers this stuff, it may just be a friend of his said something, or he has done something, or he may have seen or heard something that you don't know about but that he may have misconstrued.
Talk, lots of it, open talk, dedicated talk, that is the only way to get to the bottom of this.
Good Luck. I had the same feeling once many years ago and my girlfriend would never have cheated on me. But she was having a full blown affair and had been for a few weeks when I got "that feeling that something just isn't right", and it took her a long time and a lot of talk to admit it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2010):
Why does he think you cheated? Because unless he has a reason, this could be an indication that he has cheated or has thought about it. Attack if the first form of defence. And I don't see why after 5 years he'd suddenly think you're cheating.
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