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*occerlover1000
writes:ok my thinks im a bitch kuz at his party he said i was being a bitch and i really dont know where that came from but thats not the point the point is that he thinks im a bitch and now he feels that im pushing his away and he keeps saying that he doesnt think im a bitch but now that he said that i fell like he still thinks that im a bitch. i want to brea up with him but he keeps begging me not to but i mean ever since he has said that i dont have the same feelings about him. should i break up with him or should i just let him have his way? Reply to this Question
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reader, soccerlover1000 +, writes (1 July 2010):
soccerlover1000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I decided that I would give h another chance bit he knows how I feel and he says that he will never say it again bit I am keeping a ode eye on him but since he hasent been here and I haven't talked to him I have ytten a chance to think and I think that he was just tryignt o impress his friends and I was the only girl there so I had no back up
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reader, QZ +, writes (29 June 2010):
 He might have said that in the heat of the moment, and since you didn't fully elaborate was it really out of the blue or where you perhaps in a bad mood at the time? If you weren't acting very ladylike then you should both apologize to each other and move on. If he called you a bitch out of the blue to "impress his friends" or whatever it might have been... Find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): Give him one more chance only , he might said it just so he can see your reaction .it was one childish act,I admit it. Buuut you should tell him that you FORGIVE him but you'll NEVER FORGET . And that's what its all about see next time he acts in some childish-foolish way then you dump him . Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): Not that it's any better of him to tell you that, but saying you're 'being a bitch' and you 'are a bitch' are completely different, just from my own experience in seeing it used. It's never good to call anyone that, but to state 'being a certain anything' is to comment on an isolated incident, whereas 'you are a certain bad thing' is to label as a constant form of that type of person. To put it in layman's terms, he's labelling how he viewed your behavior at that specific moment in time, because in his foolish mind, he feels you will somehow learn from him pointing it out, where if he called you that name without the 'you're being' part, then he's stating he doesn't feel you'll change, that's the way you always are. So he feels it's a polite way of trying to change the way you acted at the party, though he's being verbally abusive and judging you in the process. Tell him he's abusive, and that if he calls you names again, rather than approaching you in a polite way, you'll dump him. I would give him one more chance, but tell him you'll never remain together with someone who talks like that. Some people will change, or at least try to.. maybe he'll put in a concerted effort.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Ditch him . He might not have meant it and just have said something stupid, but he said it anyway. You don't call your gf a bitch, you don't call any woman a bitch. A bitch is a female dog , so he should keep this word for when he is talking about Lassie.
Get yourself some guy who respects women. I don't care if your bf is just a kid , it's never too early to show respect.
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reader, neptune +, writes (28 June 2010):
 I dont think you should break up with him cause he called you that. I think you might be over reacting. Just take time to think about it and time will tell. He abviously wants to be with you if hes begging you but if you dont feel the same about him then theres your answer.
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