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writes:I am feeling very insecure about my age. I am seeing a wonderful, fun, intelligent, caring guy who thinks I'm 35 becaue I look 35 and I haven't really tried to burst his bubble.(He's 52 and I'm 47). His last girlfriend was 23 so it's hard to follow in the footsteps of someone that young and feel good about yourself. Plus I am a bit vain. I know it's shallow but I've always been attractive in a cute sort of way, which is why I don't look my age. I've always been free-spirited and up for fun things, so I don't really act my age either and I'm in terrific shape. But I really do worry about getting older and losing my looks. It's not like that's all I have going for me, I have a great job, great friends. I have a wonderful family and his family and kids are wonderful too, but I worry that he'll lose interest in me when if finds out my real age. People look differently at you when they know you're really 47. I'll start hearing things like "You really should act your age...." or, "You're 47 yrs.old do you really think it's safe to go hiking at yourage?" I can't stand those stereotypes. I don't really know how to age gracefully and I'm not sure I want to. How do other women do it?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
You really do have to be honest with him, tell him you felt it was hard to follow in the footsteps of his last girlfriend as she was only 23 be honest darling, if he loves you it wont matter what age you are will it.....
And good for you for wanting to look good so what if ya vain if you've got it flaunt it hun, you keep on being free spirited thats what makes you the person you are and that is probably why you have kept your youth...
Stop worrying about getting older hun, you cant stop time so enjoy what time you have and carry on having fun.....
If he does loose interest in you because your 47 then he really didn't love you and do you want to live a lie just to keep a man come on girl what happened to girl power you don't need someone in your life who only wants to know you because of your age you deserve someone who loves you unconditionally don't you????
You look stunning for your age you have a wonderful personality so what man out there wouldn't want you ah???
As for act your age you just be you and enjoy life real friends will want to be in your company because they have a great time with you those who don't then stuff them babes....
You go girl enjoy life and don't change because of age because I certainly wont......
Hope this has helped you hun,
Take care wishing you bundles of luck and sending you loads of love,
Love Donna xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Tell him your true age. If it makes a difference to him then he isn't worth your time. He is 52, and you are 47. A 23 yr old may have a better body, but looks don't make a relationship. Besides, that is like dating your daughter.. Any good relationship has more substance than that, and if he is that shallow, then tell him goodbye, you don't need anyone like that. We all get old, but some of us never grow up.
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