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female
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writes:Me any my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years now and he tells me that he loves me more than anything in this world but sometimes I feel like he doesn't really mean it and that he is not bothered about me.It has really been getting me down and I feel like giving up. I don't know what to do to make me realise that maybe it's me being silly or if there is a problem, how do we get our relationship back on track like it used to be?Also, he is not very good at communication, although I love to talk and listen, he doesn't..Please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, I only want to be happy +, writes (14 August 2007):
It doesn't matter how old you are, love can still hurt.
You sound as if you are insecure of how your boyfriend feels for you. You must think exactly what it is that makes you feel like he doesn't love you. Is it something he's done or something he didn't do.
I have the same with my boyfriend, he says he loves me all the time and can't do enough for me. However, there is something missing. Or is there? I ask myself that everyday. Or is it that I just can't accept his love.
Have you been hurt in the past by anyone, if so this may be the link to how you are feeling.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 August 2007):
Love isnt something you just feel- it's something you do. Love is a verb, its an action word, its what you do! As they say, actions speak louder then words. And it seems that you do not feel that your bf is acting in a way that he loves you, hes just saying he loves you.
Why do you feel like he doesnt mean it sometimes? What does he do or NOT do that makes you feel unloved? Have you told him the specific things that hes doing? If not, then I suggest you do this. Guys need you to be very specific with them, they arent good at assuming things.
Its understandable he may not be very good at communication, since he is young and being in a relatiosnhip with a girl is obviosuly a new experience. Tell him how you feel and back up what you say with whats been happening. Then ask him how he feels. So you can have an understand of what he is coming from. He may not be so good at communication, but in time you can guide him into expressing his feelings better.
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