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writes:I have been dating this guy for 6 weeks. He separated from his wife 4 months ago and he was devestated. We love each other but I am worried that this a rebound relationship for him and he still might love his wife (she left him). I also found out that this other girl likes him at work who just happens to be a good friend of his. He said that he only thinks of her as a friend and if it were to become anything more, I would be the first to know. I'm uneasy about this because why even say "if it were to become more...". Does this mean there is a possibility that he might want to be with her? I found out he told her that he thinks of her as a friend but definitely thinks it could become more if it were pursued. I am so confused! HELP!
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reader, alishamarie08  +, writes (9 July 2009):
I agree w/ art! He's playing the field. He wants to keep options open. Sry I've been there leave his behind he will see what he's missin!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (9 July 2009):
 Hi there, if this is the way he said this to you, for some reason, it sounds very cavalier or offhanded to me.It sounds as though he is playing the field and wants everyone to stay in place until he decides which way he is going, possibly back to his wife, who knows? I for one would not allow myself to be strung along for his pleasure, without him making some kind of commitment in the relationship. When he says "you'll be the first to know", I don't think so, the other woman and he will be the first to know, you'll be third on the list after the two of them, that sounds like shopping to me. But you have to decide if you are going to hang around while he window shops. If in this case means to me "a possibility".
So if there is a possibility that something could develop between him and the other woman, seems to me that he is leaving that door open. Learn to be your own best friend and do what is best for you. Take care. Stay in touch.
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