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writes:dear cupid,Me and my partner split up a few weeks before christmas and it really hurt me. We were still sleeping with each other right up and till he got a new girlfriend which I found out was his house mate which hurt even more but on Christmas day he popped round to say merry christmas which I throught was really nice of him. When he left he then started texting me say how much he missed me and everything and on boxing day we ended up in bed with each other again. It was really weird being with him again. He has popped round this weekend and it happen again he tells me he loves his girlfriend but there is still sexual tension between us. What do I do?
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 The exact same situation happened to me...and shockingly at a similar time period to yours.
From past experience I have met many men and women alike who are immature. Not ready to commit, handle relationships efficiently and most importantly are unsure to what they actually want. They get carried away easily which ties in the whole idea of not knowing what they truely want. You are familiar to him, you offer things which his current girlfriend couldn't possibly offer, you are memorable and you also will get hurt if this persists. Theres a massive difference between sleeping with someone you have no feelings for and sleeping with someone you arent over yet..and still unfortunately for you, are emotionally attached to. Take time away from him. I did that. I will admit, he is still on my mind. But things have become much easier and clearer. I would definitely not sleep with him again for both our sakes. Confusion between ex partners is a no go area for me now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): I just wanted to add, I also agree with "PunkyPippi".
She is blunt but truthful. You should stay on the safe side.
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 He doesn't love his girlfriend. He's getting as much action as possible while trying to still seem to be a "good guy."
Stop sleeping with him before you catch something, and tell this loser to leave you alone. Don't answer his calls or texts. Ignore him, and he'll go away just like the disgusting bug he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): Try to condition yourself to emotionally dis-attach from him.
Ask him to give you some space. I understand you want to be friends, but since he is taken, and you feel something physical towards him. You need to get over him completely.
Ask him to give you some space, and explain why. It is completely unhealthy for you to still have any attraction to him, rather it be emotional or physical.
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